I’m looking at going to a solicitor without my ex’s knowledge as I feel I’ve been put in a position where I need to make sure myself and my children are financially secure. Sadly I feel that it has come to this as he has lied about his new partner and all trust has gone out the window for me.
I read a little bit about this sort of thing on Citizens Advice and there is something called a mediator. Has anyone had to go this route first before they went to a solicitor??
A mediator won’t advise you on your situation and rights – their job is to try to facilitate discussion between you and your ex to try to reach an agreement (be that on finances or children) that you both feel is acceptable. It’s a good route to go down to try to restore relations but if you want to know first what you should be asking for you need to get advice from a solicitor or something equivalent.
Definitely get legal advice and most offer a free 30 minute appointment. Make sure you research well though I was pushed into a decision on a solicitor when I was emotionally distraught (letter from his solicitor he said he did not have requesting a divorce).
Have also been to Mediation it was not helpful at all and nothing was resolved. Although it improved communication slightly between us post appointment.