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    Mummytomyangel
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    Hello, I’ve posted here before after a tough 4 years with my child’s father, very brief we dated for 2 months and I found I was pregnant with my daughter, we have never had a relationship and he had age appropriate contact throughout her 1st year, gradually stepping up. He didn’t see her unsupervised for 11 months as I found out he was using class a drugs and moved a drug dealer into his house. After a clean drug test we had resumed contact and he has her eow but without overnighs and he made me feel guilty into his mum having her for lunch on a Thursday every week, which is nice for my daughter. Now he keeps adding extra time in the week when he’s off work which I’m happy with, but he sends me messages the other saying my dad is going to pick her up for the day he wants to take her out, I have never met his dad and my daughter hasn’t spent anytime with him apart from with her father, my daughter is 2 and half and is with me every day apart from the 12 over the weekend can he just tell me that his family is picking her up when its my time with my daughter, there’s a lot more to the story but I’ve rambled enough, any help appreciated

    Thank you

    #61870 Report

    Andrew uk
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    Can you not come up with a formal,  written contact schedule? Then both of you stick to it.

    #62030 Report

    HelloKitty
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    It’s not your responsibility to facilitate contact with the other parents family. He should be doing that when he sees her.

    His parents his problem. Your parents your problem.

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    Mummytomyangel
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    Thank you both for taking the time to reply, my sentiments exactly just reassuring to know that I’m not being unreasonable

    #62320 Report

    Mummytomyangel
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    My response didn’t go down well as usual, he thinks that his father needs one on one time with my daughter now on her time with me and my family. It just goes to show how well he knows and understands her if he thinks that she’ll be comfortable without either of us there for day. An hour whilst she is with her father is a lot different to a whole day by herself. How do you cope with co parents that have no boundaries? Without feeling guilty at every opportunity

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