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    jasmin3
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    Hi,

    My daughter lives with me in her hometown of birth. She is under one. Her dad has moved three hours away and is now asking for contact. How can I ask the Court for contact to take place in mine and my daughters home town ONLY? There are reasons this is wanted/needed.

    #10457 Report

    Empty
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    Are you actually going to court though? You won’t be able to go to court without trying mediation first and that needs to happen where the child lives anyway. Mediation should address whatever the issues are. And is that three hours by car or train or round trip? The thing is all things being equal he may be entitled to joint parenting (providing it doesn’t affect schooling), or at least regular overnights. If it’s three hours to you and three hours back, that’s six hours out of his parenting time just spent travelling. It might be arranged that you meet halfway. But as I say it depends what your problems are.

    Thinking of it coldly without knowing the facts, it’s not fair contact for him if he – for example – drives for three hours, gets about two hours contact tops (presumably spending money to take her out somewhere?), and then drives all the way back again, once a week or whatever (and all at his cost). Or can he stay with you? Or are you expecting him to get a hotel at his own cost also? Any contact expense will be evaluated against what he gives you on maintenance. A court has the child’s interests at heart not yours and at the moment, it sounds like a couple of hours a week with all the time and costs attributable to him is not fair on the child as it is going to prohibit contact.

    A couple may not get on, or having split realise that money and locations are a problem, but that’s not the child’s fault, and a child needs both parents in its life.

    Unless there’s something you’re not telling us?

    #10463 Report

    jasmin3
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    Hi Anonymous. Yes its me! Are you qualified? You seem to know a lot. I am scheduled for court yes.

    #10464 Report

    jasmin3
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    Empty- I am a victim of domestic abuse. Firstly, I cannot drive and have little spare money to afford to meet him halfway. He could have rented in our home town and been closer to put daughter rather than move 3 hours away? That was his choice so how is that my problem?

    #10465 Report

    jasmin3
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    He is also welcome to have her all day long… I would never just offer merely two hours visiting time.

    #10475 Report

    Empty
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    As it’s going to court and domestic abuse was involved, it’s likely that for a while the best he can hope for is a contact centre, and that would have to be near your home. When you go to court, you can raise the travel/money issue. If there’s been domestic abuse I think the court will be wary of overnight, unsupervised visits anyway. I’ve heard that monitoring of such safeguarding issues can take years in some cases.

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