Hi
i need some help as I get very angry and frustrated with the lack of consistent contact my ex is having with our daughter.
I have a few issues but really want to find work around s.
currently he has started seeing a new girlfriend who has 8 children. We agreed we will not introduce our daughter to new partners unless we were both in agreement. So this is fine at the moment.
however, he currently is only seeing our daughter on a whim, in other words when he can be bothered or she isn’t there.
I would like to propose a contact agreement because I think we all need some consistency and our daughter needs stability. Also to be honest, I think I deserve some time of my own.
he doesn’t pay any child support either and I’m fine with this as he lost his job in January.
so I was going to propose he has our daughter Friday after school to Saturday morning on week 1 and then week 2 Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon.
if he wanted to he could also have a few hours on a Tuesday or Thursday evening. Especially with the lighter evenings coming.
I do have reservations about her sleeping over there as he only has a mattress on the floor and he obviously is having sex in that bed. My daughter isn’t keen on staying there because of that reason and because he doesn’t do anything with her and he smokes weed so she comes out of there stinking. But that being said I don’t see why he should get to shirk his responsibility to her and just flit in and out as he pleases.
do I propose this? And if he doesn’t agree what do I do?
I can supply a blow up bed for her to sleep in so she doesn’t have to sleep in his bed and it’s hers then as well