Hi everyone. I’m new. Was just after some advice. Recently split from my partner of 7 years. Who has decided to walk out on my and my 2 boys. ( youngest is his) he’s seeing our son Wednesday 4-6.30 , Saturday and Sunday for 3 hours each. I’ve recommended one day at the weekend for a full day but he won’t agree. He claims this isn’t enough. Am I being reasonable with contact? He’s only going to be 3 at the end of the month. I feel that my ex thinks it’s completely ok to walk out leaving me in debt, a wedding booked and so on he’s left the family home with no responsibility’s but he wants to be able to see his son as and when he chooses. I’ve been through court with my first child so I am quite confident that the contact he’s getting is reasonable for a child of his age. But he keeps saying that it’s not enough etc that he has 50/50 he doesn’t even have anywhere to live only a single bed in his mums house. Please help I feel I’m being fair towards him after everything he’s done to me
I think you’re right one full day is better than part days at the weekend. It sounds like he wants to impact your life as much as he can by insisting on seeing him at awkward times. I’ve also been through court because my ex wanted to have our kids every other day. the judge agreed with me so he has them two consecutive days in the week and every other weekend because it’s less disruptive for the kids. I don’t think you’re being unfair, if he really wanted 50/50 he’d get off his arse and find his own place to live.