Consent order with children
6 July 2018 at 4:30 pm #13048
I have been advised to divorce my ex u def UBegaviour or adultery. At the moment he pays good maintenance per month and I work part time. I have just been awarded tax credits but don’t really want him to know this as it’s my business! He has lied to me for months and months and always threatens to remove maintenance so that’s why I proceeded to get TC for security. Im worried on the consent order or at mediation to prepare the CO we set up I will have to declare having just got TC? Has anyone else done a consent order, I dont really want him knowing how and where I spend my money as none of his business!6 July 2018 at 8:25 pm #13059
what do you mean?6 July 2018 at 9:27 pm #13062
TC has nothing to do with consent order.6 July 2018 at 10:26 pm #13065
You do need to complete a financial declaration that the judge and ypur ex see which includes your income but it’s a total figure so you don’t need to itemise that it includes tax credits.
Eg if you get 400 wage 100 tax credit and 200 maintenance you would just fill in one box for income with total 700.8 July 2018 at 3:50 pm #13109
Ok, his salary per month is 3000,he pays CM 1000 per month
my part time salary is 1200, I get 1000 CM for house costs and children. Tax credits if 8-900 pays all childcare. My TC very high this year as goes off last years lower salary, next years TC will be lower I think as I’m on a higher wage this year.
Does this seem ok?8 July 2018 at 3:51 pm #13110
He’s left with £2000 which he uses for his own accommodation etc
and I’m left with around 7-600 once I’ve paid remainder bills,
does this seem a fair split!?8 July 2018 at 8:35 pm #13115
You need to declare what you are getting in case it backfires
If they say you have excess just say you are saving because you want to do a degree so that you can better yourself as the fees are high8 July 2018 at 11:11 pm #13123
You can either agree a financial arrangement between yourselves which you then ask the judge to approve in which case you complete a basic financial declaration and send a copy of your agreement drafted by a solicitor… or if you can’t agree something then you have to ask the judge to decide for you in which case you have to submit more detailed information of income and also outgoings…. have you had advice from a solicitor? They can tell you if the arrangement you currently have is fair… it’s more than about maintenance it includes splitting all assets belonging to either of you including pensions savings in any name property etc and your ability to earn in the future if you are left as sole carer of the children… your sacrifice for child rearing is considered and your needs for housing and expenses with the kids. I recommend legal advice you can get a free session at most solicitors.
I suggest you go on wikivorce website forum put your details of finances ages length of marriage and ages of you and kids and ask sone one there for advice on what you can expect. Invaluable source of information for financial splits.
On the surface the maintenance deal sounds good but a consent order will cover all other assets as well so you will need to decide how everything is going to be split. Divorce splits include everything both individual and jointly owned.8 July 2018 at 11:13 pm #13124
And sorry you are finding yourself in this situation xxxxx wish you and your children all the best and trust me… you will get through it and it will get better xxxxx go on wikivorce website. It’s a lifesaver xx15 July 2018 at 3:06 pm #13421
Thank you and yes I will,