So I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for about three months seriously …. we’ve been on and off for about 18 months ish however. I just found out that he’s got two kids and the name he’s told me isn’t his real name ; now all of this is fine and he’s explained why he didn’t tell me about his kids and I’ve accepted the reason. He’s had a bit of a rough time recently so he could keep his job and generally have good mental health , he’s been staying at my house , so we’ve been super close and have been literally having the best time together. Now foolishly we’ve been having unprotected sex … I know it’s a stupid thing to do, he’s only just recently asked me if I was on contraception and I was honest and said no, he then freaked out and was like this is stupid why aren’t you on anything ? And I explained why I wasn’t on the pill etc and then he’s like well it wouldn’t matter anyway I’ve got someone pregnant on the pill before but she had an abortion. I said to him it’s both of our responsibilities to discuss contraception it’s not just the females and he disagreed and got quite annoyed about it, we discussed what would happen if I was pregnant .Fast forward to nearly a week later , I’ve always assumed I’ve would have problems conceiving , I’m over weight and I was taking the pill full time for about eight years with no break. But it turns out I am pregnant , four weeks
Now he’s absolutely gone from softy to psycho and he’s like saying to me that he’s one pill away from ending it and that if I keep this baby , his ex won’t let him see his other kids as it’s unfair that he will have three kids under five and that I’m literally nailing the coffin shut if I keep it. I came home from work to talk about it and he refused to talk to me , he’s been banging on about abortion abortion … I’m not sure what I want to do , i told him I wasn’t sure but I probably wouldn’t keep the baby but now I’ve changed my mind
I have my own house which is mortgage free however I do have some debt which is being paid off with my full time jobs wages , I know it would be a struggle if I had the baby but I’m just not sure. I’ve also asked him where I stand and he won’t talk to me until I’ve had the abortion ( apparently this how his first son was born , his ex refused an abortion) I genuinely thought this guy was my lobster , I literally love him with everything but I’m getting nothing but negative vibes
he sent me some angry abusive messages tonight asking me when my appointment is and how it needs to get done and that I’ve changed and he’s happy he’s seen that
I need to tell him I want to keep the baby but I’m scared
I’d appreciate any advice 💕
