Hi all… new to here and looking for some hopeful advice!
I separated from my children’s dad after 15 years together, he came out and is in a relationship with a man now.
I have found all this very difficult to deal with… the children are with me most of the time, and have only just found out about their dads partner.
They are 7 and 5, our youngest has additional needs.
Today we went over to dads flat for the first time, which is lovely. I just can’t help but feel like I have a really rubbish deal. I’m struggling for money, I work full time too which is tough, I didn’t ask for any of this… my 7 year old is demanding to go and live at his dads now and wants to go back there now… I just feel awful about it all!! I’m wondering if it gets easier? Please help!
do you have any arrangement in place for your kids to see dad? if not should look at sorting one asap. you can ask him to support kids with child maintenance. it will get easier over time. worst part is if there is hostility between parents.
Hi Steve thanks for replying… yes there have always been arrangements in place, things have just changed recently with him moving in with his partner.
he still sees them every other weekend but has been coming to our house for that as the children didn’t know about his relationship. They know now.
He’s always paid maintenance and been great in that respect. It’s just more I didn’t expect to be in the position of sharing the children in this way and it’s really hard!
I feel very sorry for people who have been mistreated by partners/spouses etc and are left with bad feelings,and the kids to look after,then put their heart,soul and all their time into their kids then have to ‘share’ them with someone who- frankly-has not earned and does not deserve the privilege.But if that makes the kids happier that’s what most of us will do.Those of us who are going through hardship,difficulty and misery doing the ‘right thing’s by our kids….well,we really deserve medals don’t we?
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