My ex is threatening to take travel expenses off the maintenance he pays me. It’s a 20 mile round trip twice a month. I went to the cms this year after 7 years of him deciding how much/when he pays me. He’s now trying to blackmail me, by saying if I don’t meet him where he agrees rather than him coming to my house he’ll contact the cms and they’ll take money off me. He’s gone for 4 months in the past without seeing the girls, I’m really worried he’ll do it again. Can anyone help?
So he is trying to control you thru money. I think you need to let him know this isn’t going to work. Give him your full support in contacting cms to complain about travelling 40 miles a month; I do think they will have much more serious things going on than listening to him whine on about 40 miles a month to see his children.
If he stops seeing his children that is his own choice, it’s not your decision but his so do not feel like the bad person in this if that is what he does.