First time user here so very nervous at using this. My ex, father to girls age 7 and 9 has had mental health issues and was suicidal last year. He is now in therapy 6 x week and sent a solicitor letter saying he wants wed/and every other weekends. Until now we have had a verbal agreement of no overnights (split 3 years ag0) given that he was actively suicidal. Since july we agreed sun and wed contact but he has been erratic dropping last minute etc. and kids have been confused. I have got a solicitor now and am suggesting we keep sun/wed for now for next year whilst he shows his commitment and ability to parent (Until early this year he was a gambling and drug addict – this is in writing). I feel I am being fair but he is being really challenging and making other arrangements via kids. Solicitor is dealing with all this but in the meantime – he sent a message about xmas – wants sun (x eve) and boxing day and see the xmas. Also asking for other days to do things with them. I feel that I should stick to sun/wed with option for him to pop in on Xmas if he wishes to – naturally girls can call him at any point. Is this fair??