Christmas arrangements – what’s yours?

[Kate1212Participant]

Hey, as the title asks what do you and your ex arrange for the children over Christmas? Is it as simple as alternate Xmas day? Does that mean just for the day or Xmas eve until Xmas day night?

your thoughts welcomed. My child is currently only 1 years old and I just don’t know what to propose for Xmas, I have other children from a previous marriage

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

At that age ds stayed with me and ex came to see him. But then ex didn’t do nappies or nights 😁

Now ds is 10, he’s with me until Boxing Day morning, then goes to his dad’s until NYE. Then back to me so ex can party.

It works pretty well.

[Kate1212Participant]

Hey Kathy thanks for the reply. What do you do over school holidays? I feel my child is too young to even think about a week over Easter or weeks over summer?

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

From about 4, son went to his dad’s for a weekend, which was enough for each of them I think. It extended gradually to a long weekend and now a week at Xmas, Easter & in the summer. Son goes to holiday club for three weeks in the summer, and I take 2 weeks off.

The rest of the year, ex prefers to see son on a Sunday but not overnight.

we’ve managed to keep it reasonably amicable, and flex around each other’s lives.

I know the courts prefer EOW or even 50;50 but you have to do what works for you both. You’ve got 17 years of co-parenting to survive so you both need to be comfortable with any arrangements.

[RamblinjonParticipant]

My ex and I have alternative Christmas’s, one Christmas I have him Christmas eve until lunchtime Christmas day and she has him the same the following year, it seemed the only way that was fair, after Christmas eve/ morning is magical for children so it’s great that both parents can enjoy with the children.

We also do alternative New years eve so both get the chance to go out if we want.

Mark

[JRR-RobParticipant]

I get Boxing Day only, and not allowed to have more, just keep getting told NO

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

JRR, have you been to court to get an access order. Your children should be able to see their dad. Your ex isn’t allowed to deny you access without a really good reason.

Don’t let it go, try to get it resolved . Good luck.

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