Hello.
just putting my situation out there to see if anyone out there is experiencing similar or has any little nuggets of advice!
I have a 4 year old daughter. I left her Dad when she was 6 months (he didn’t seem to care, contribute, drank too much, a plethora of things really). I knew we could do better and we have a great life.
Her Dad used to have her overnight once a week. Around a year ago her Dad decided he wasn’t going to continue with any of the caring responsibilities and refuses to have her at his house (he says it’s not fit for a child, he has let it deteriorate), leaving me to organise childcare around my full time hours. He has blocked me so I cannot text him. His daughter can’t ring him either. He might see her once a week/ fortnight when she is at his mum’s.
I am furious that he thinks absolving himself of any responsibility is a choice. She has started to talk about missing him and I’m worried her self esteem will be affected in the long run.
I don’t know what – if anything I should be doing – is the brief minimal contact more harmful to my daughter?
He is in his late 30s and does experience some social anxiety and anger, he was also given adhd diagnosis recently – not to excuse his behaviour. I am trying to be empathetic if but just keep arriving at his behaviour being absolutely unacceptable and damaging to my daughter.
Thanks for reading.