Children's arrangements

[emma]

Hi.

Again thank you for all your messages.

Yes domestic violence was reported but more than 2 years ago and 2 years ago we divorced based on unresponsive behaviour.

I quess now I will be waiting for paperwork from court or he will send me parenting plan that I have to agree or Not?

I send him parenting plan through cafcass but he doesn’t want to do it.

All why he is angry is because I reported him to child maintenance agency and he has to pay more that we agreed 4 years ago on separation agreement.

Kind Regards

[Andrew]

Hi All

I’m recently separated and I’m struggling to get my head round the whole lot and the millions of questions and possibilities that are going round and round in my head. One of them being the children’s arrangements. We plan on splitting the time 50/50 but was wondering what the best arrangements would be for the children.

Thanks for any help!

[Empty]

50/50 is perfectly good for the children, providing it doesn’t affect the child’s routine – i.e. going to school, seeing their friends, regular activities, etc. If it is unsettling the child too much (depending on their age) you might want to ask them what they would like. It may be best to say Fri nights/weekends, holidays, etc are spent with one rather than the other, providing that parent also gets a fair amount of social time, not just day to day school time, which isn’t fair. 50/50 is always a happy medium if the parents can be civil.

All the best, sounds like you’re having an “easier” separation than most who post around here, so keep going down that route – that is what is best for the child.

 

[emma]

Hi All,

I hope you all well.

Unfortunately my children dad not doing much to sort it out properly to see children:( He was only in mediation but I refused to come as it cost lots of money….then he email me that he will send paperwork to court but it was 3 months ago and still haven’t got anything through post.

He saw children 3 times since beginning of this year:(

I have a question. Do anyone of you know if I can do something to forse him to see children regularly or if he doesn’t want to see them that nothing I can do?

Thank you.

[emma]

That is sad for children but I thought this is reality.

Thank you for anwer.

Kind Regards

[mummyof1]

Hi,

I’m new to the gingerbread forum although have found much great and supportive advice on the website and used the helpline who put me in touch with family lives who have been a great help.  I too have a very different and challenging situation and could really use some further advice and support.   ‘Empty’ you mention a parent plan that you’d be happy to share, could I trouble you to forward this on to me?  also, you mention McKenzie friend, do you need to be on a low income to use this service and are they as good, if not better than solicitors?

 

Many thanks in advance

 

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