My husband & I separated in January but were still living together (he has been unemployed for a year now). I’ve asked him to stay with his parents on a few occasions to give me some space. The last of which was on mothers day weekend & he ended up staying to help with parents with the lockdown. He did a few zoom chats in the 1st few weeks but not for 4 weeks. He does reply to most the emails I get them to sent to him & we have sent pictures & letters. I’ve tried to get him to set up 3 weekly zoom chats but he’s not answering any of my messages.
He asked at the beginning if the kids could come & stay with him & his parents (his dad is in 60’s but his mum is 75 and suffering from dementia) and I said no due to the lockdown but obviously said it was fine for him to come back & we could take it in turns to look after the children in our house. He’s just emailed again to say that he wants the kids to come & stay as it’s his mums 76th birthday next week. I feel really bad but I can’t let them go whilst we’re in the lockdown. I’m wondering about driving up and letting them spend time socially distanced (his parents live 80 miles/ 90 mins from us) from them but I am not comfortable with them staying there. He’s obviously really suffering (he suffers from depression) but it’s too big a risk.
Please tell me I’m doing the right thing as I feel really mean.
Correct me if I’m wrong but the gov guidelines would support what he is asking for surely? It’s been said that parents should continue to share custody during lockdown. It’s a new situation for you guys but I would assume it still applies for any situation in which you would otherwise share custody.