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    Oaklands32
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    I am

    a part time teacher .. 50/50 split of parenting with ex and amicable. I can work from home whilst the COVid-19 is happening. Ex is senior management in local hospital. Working 12 hours a day in a high risk environment. I want to keep the children with me whilst this is happening … is this reasonable ? Don’t want to risk their health by him seeing them for even a short visit … welcome views ?

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    Sazzy27382
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    I can understand why you would like to do this. I’m assuming it would depend on if you have a court order or agreement in place with your ex to see the children.  If not then I guess it would just be up to you both to decide on how to proceed. Would he agree to not seeing the child in person during this time? Perhaps suggest FaceTime and other means of contact for the time being.

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    Brielouise
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    I am having similar issue where I have my child most of time but she meant to go to her dads every second weekend. My exes partner is a carer so still out working and I am concerned that is putting my child at risk if I send her to her dad . Her dad is still sure he wants her to go there but I am worried that it is putting her at risk

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    So k
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    I am in the same predicament, I have a court order in place, I have tried speaking to my child’s father in regards to keeping him home with me until this passes.. he is still insisting on seeing my son.. he’s been working and has been interacting with other people, I’m worried for my son.. what can I do in this situation? 

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    BM98
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    I’m in the same situation

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    Brielouise
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    I’m not sure where to get the information from to get the answers we all need. I dont think it is a good idea to send kids there if there is higher chance they could come into contact with someone still working and at risk of catching coronavirus

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    Mummy101
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    I’m also needing advice on this . My child sees his dad 3 nights a week, hes still working (key worker), really unsure on what to do. Want to keep my child at home for his own safety but this is already causing problems. HELP!

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    So k
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    What to do when there’s a court order in place though…

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    BM98
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    See my child only sees his dad 4 hours a week through court order not sure what to do

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    Brielouise
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    Kyle
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    I also need help on this. My child has asthma and In Feb was seen in hospital following a Doctors referral for her asthma. I also have asthma as well as ME and Fibro.  My ex is not the most understanding and told me I was a hypochondriac for not sending our child in to school with a 100 degree temp and stomach issues. This was before the guidance on 7 days at home with either a fever of 100+ or cough. I’m worried he’ll insist on our child going to his for the weekend. His household is 5 people one of whom drives lorries/works in the office so is a key worker. We are voluntarily sheltering at home as it’s my understanding that multiple vulnerable conditions are worse off – especially one like ME where the body is already fighting itself. I’m worried he’ll insist or turn up at my door demanding our child (who is 11.5). I’m not happy at all about this. Suggestions would be most welcome as to where to get more advice.

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    Laura.89
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    I’m having a similar issue with my ex. We do not have a court order in place for visitation or anything like that. Now we are on lock down I want to isolate myself and 2 boys for the next 3 weeks, only going out for essential food shopping. He still plans on going to work and seeing his girlfriend. We ended up having a huge argument about it this morning when I told him I felt they should stay with me for the 3 weeks. It was quite a controlling and manipulative relationship and once again he’s won and I let my boys go with him because I’m too scared to stand up to him properly. He’s assured me now that he’s going to self isolate with the boys but I don’t believe him. I have quite bad asthma and have had pneumonia only 2 years ago, knowing how ill I felt then I certainly don’t want to go through that again, but apparently I’m selfish. Any advice? Am I allowed to stop them going? He’s been very threatening about it all and I’m feeling exhausted and anxious about it all

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    Brielouise
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    From everything I have read over the last 2 days all I can work out is that it has to be decided between both parents what is best for the child in the situation. I would have liked to have something in writing so that I could show my ex why I dont think it’s a good idea that my child goes there. His reaction is that we could pick up coronavirus by going to shop so doesn’t matter that his partner is still working as a carer. I really dont want to send my child but dont have anything to prove a reason why I shouldn’t

    #38308 Report

    Good dad
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    I myself work in NHS and i totally agree with your concerns and it is only appropriate for you to look after the children. Children carry low risk with covid virus but they are known to be carriers. They can easily transmit virus to you and others.

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    Kyle
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    Laura.89  I hear you loud and clear. My ex is/was gaslighting me and everything he says is about ‘winning’. Very frustrating when in this case ‘winning’ is doing what is best to keep everyone alive and healthy.

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