Going through a separation a messy one. We have mediation today in the hope that he will work through this rather than going to court, although he has said he won’t. My little one starts school in September. I want to co parent but then someone said that breaking up the school week will be too disruptive for the child. I was going to suggest a night over end of the week, split time weekend and during the week- have tea but still come back to me. What are your experiences? A few people have said every other weekend and tea during the week, which seems very little contact to me but I get where they are coming from. I wouldn’t mind if he still wanted to be involved in drop off and pick up at school. Not sure how disruptive this will be for little one though.
I had to go to court as my ex refused to turn up for mediation. My children are 6 and 8 and he now has every Tuesday and Wednesday night and every other weekend, but even before that when they were younger he had them for one overnight during the week simply because by the time he came to pick them up at 5.30 after work he would only have and hour and a half before they had to be back so i could get them in bed. He would bring them back to me in the morning and i would take them to school. Him having them a night in the week worked out better for everyone and although my son would frequently end up coming home anyway (he couldn’t cope with two kids on his own), the kids didn’t seem bothered in the slightest. As long as they have a set routine so they know where they’ll be and when they cope pretty well.