Having a really hard time at the moment. my partner and I have lived together for around 5 months now (together 7 years).
He is really struggling with my sons ASD and ADHD. He feels that my son is rude all the time, has even said he doesn’t like my son due to this. everything my son does just annoys him. Sometimes my son swears, shouts has melt downs. I know it is hard for him as its all new and I have had years of dealing with it, but the stress of it is bad enough without feeling like I have no support
Have explained that I cant help the way he is. He has even said it is my fault that he is the way he is, and that I don’t discipline him enough (which I do) but with these disabilities you have to pick your battles. along with this my son is 11 so has hormones flying all round his body (have noticed the moods swings have got a lot worse the last year or so)
Does anyone have any advice of what I can do to help my partner?
Children on the spectrum are unpredictable. Your partner should be more understanding. My daughter is autistic but can do silly things at times which can be annoying.
She irritates my brother so I don’t have my brother around my daughter! .
I caught him videoing her on his phone whilst she was eating like she was some sort of animal so I put a stop to that. He hasnt been to my house since last year and he won’t be returning!
My daughter has marmite on celery sticks and lots of home made fish dishes. Her behavior has improved a great deal. Try looking up brain food and see what can cook . Fish oil from Holland and barrett is good if child refuses fish. My one doesnt eat junk food, chips, nuggets etc.. And it has to be freshly cooked!
Sorry not very helpful but I’m sure you will find a solution!!
Everyone is understanding except this individual who I don’t care for. Obviously she does not like him so plays up. Remember children are astute and clever especially ones on the spectrum. That’s cool with me and I respect my child. Food plays an important part. My one likes biscuits and sweets and I do let her have them occasionally because she eats very well. Marmite is amazing as it has B12