Hi Shelleygal,
I hope your daughter is doing ok? It’s a lot to deal with on your own. There is no doubt that your ex is a selfish, inconsiderate and inhuman person. To not contribute to his own daughter’s upbringing is disgraceful. Thats a hellish situation.
I don’t understand people like that but it does seem to be very common.
I work FT with 2 kids and my ex contributes very little of his actual earnings as he’s also self employed and puts only a tiny amount through the books. So annoyingly I can’t challenge how much he pays without risk of it being reduced as he contributes voluntarily.
I’m not sure what you can do in your situation as I’m not sure what options the CMS have at their disposal. I don’t think you should give up as he has a responsibility for the child that he has fathered. If he has nothing to do with her emotional, physical or social support then he should definitely provide financial support.
Hang in there girl you’re a loving and supporting mother providing the best that you can and trying to better your future for both of you with your studies – I take my hat of to you!
If it’s too emotionally waring to pursue him then leave it but if you still have a little energy then if possible you need to try and get his address so that CMS can track him. However with all of that said I don’t know what the legal repercussions are for non payment? I hope they’re harsh!
keep your head up girl.
Cx