child maintenance during gap year
27 January 2018 at 10:25 am #7165
New to this site so hi to everyone
currently I pay £800 child maintenance per month to my ex for my two children who live with her I also claim a reduction for my step daughter who lives with me and my new wife My step daughter aged 17 has now left full time education and took a full time job for 3 months and is now currently doing voluntary work in the middle east for a further 3 months, upon her return she may or may not go back into full time education
My question is should I notify the CMS of a change of circumstances and will I have to pay my ex more maintenance as it may be deemed I no longer support my step daughter since she left college I guess this could be deemed a gap year? also will my wife have to notify the child benefit people will she lose that child benefit?
Thanks for any advice
Devon27 January 2018 at 11:06 am #7169
well I was not expecting that! you sound an angry person and not at all helpful to my genuine enquiry
In response I have always been happy to support my children according to the rules and beyond I have never, repeat never dodged my responsibilities
I support my stepdaughter very generously too! morally or not, it was the CMS that advised me to do so as it is within their criteria for CMS calculator
MY point is should I notify CMS re than happy to do as I am fortunate enough to afford it
I am not trying to dodge payments!
perhaps a more knowledgable helpful person can assist rather than criticism that I could do with out27 January 2018 at 5:23 pm #7173
Ouch 😬 Devon you’re always better off being up front I think otherwise it comes back to bite you on the buttocks.27 January 2018 at 5:51 pm #7174
It was a genuine question and I second DMP, always be upfront and they can advise you accordingly. Not worth risking anything, especially paying £800 per month for two kids already. I don’t get any child maintenance so I wished I had £400 per month for one child.28 January 2018 at 9:51 am #7186
Maybe if I rephrase my question more clearly I might just get a constructive answer rather than raise the wrath of certain angry persons who think I earn too much and am getting away with it so to speak but that is by the by!
If my stepdaughter is on a gap year will it effect the Child maintenance I pay my wife
YES or NO ?28 January 2018 at 10:40 am #7187
Hi harddoneby, I’d still say the same, speak to the guys who make up the rules (CMS), unless anyone more knowledgeable comes along with advice. That way you cover yourself 😀28 January 2018 at 11:02 am #7188
Thanks for that but I am profoundly deaf and unable to use telephones CMS dont have email you have to write a letter just thought easier to ask on this site I just want to know if it effects the maintenance I pay my ex or if I am required by law to notify CMS of circumstances if my SD returns to full time education it may not be worthwhile notifying them if it does not effect the benefit if it means paying ex more I am more than happy to do that as we get along fine also you probably aware all the red tape etc with CMS by the time I notify them and they get their act together my sd could be at university I can always make up the difference in cash to ex during gap time28 January 2018 at 11:24 am #7189
Completely get where you’re coming from, I’m astounded that the CMS fail to provide an equally accessible service for those with hearing impairment. All I could suggest is citizen advice bureau (CMS disputes line) on text phone 0151 801 8888. I’d post the link but I’m shocking with technology, sorry 😐28 January 2018 at 11:49 am #7190
I use cms for my ex to pay me maintenance and yes I would definetly let them know as I haven’t been using this for even a year yet so remember all the terms and conditions that if u don’t notify them of changes within a certain period they can fine you so yes I would.5 February 2018 at 6:03 pm #7403
Hi chaps I’ve only just seen this thread. Can I ask whether people think that it’s acceptable to be rude to others on Gingerbread ?
i find this rather upsetting and unnecessary.
i remember that a reminder regarding acceptable behaviour was posted recently.
sorry to rant but please can we be mindful of what’s written?
hardoneby, good luck I wish you well5 February 2018 at 6:11 pm #7404
Yep thanks my first post I was absolutely miffed with Anonymous and her negative unhelpful rude post she knows nothing about me or my domestic and personal circumstances I responded with anger and rudeness and have been censored I will not continue using this site if her response is what to expect
I can only assume she was angered and maybe jealous because of my income and a grudge against men any way I relieved this by contacting CMS who have been most helpful incidentally I have through this site been invited to meet a a gingerbread group but will decline because of Anonymous response5 February 2018 at 7:00 pm #7407
No harddoneby no!! I have felt like this with comments from a couple of participants and in deed left Gingerbread for a while.
i just hope that you can join any group you want.
tact and empathy is all I hope for from others on this site5 February 2018 at 9:11 pm #7410
Please can we be respectful this is so upsetting!! God luck?5 February 2018 at 9:32 pm #7414
Me oh no I’m a golden oldie to Gingerbread.
Please don’t apologise to me but to harddoneby. It’s the tone of your response that’s highly offensive and not just on this thread.
Like many I went through an acrimonious divorce but am so positive and have moved on. Bitterness is not in my vocabulary although compassion and empathy are.
God bless5 February 2018 at 9:39 pm #7415
You ignorant mid informed sad person if you read my post I was asking if it would be reduced not asking for it to be reduce if I wanted to dodge my responsibilities or reduce the naintenance then I could withold the very expensive private school fees for both my children quite a substantial amount that I pay voluntarily over and above child mainentenance in addition to the very generous monthly allowance I voluntarily give my two girls over and above child maintenance you have got it wrong and continue to snipe at me now get off my back you idiot now report me so I get taken off gingerbread for good you are the offensive one stating you thought I was shite for claiming allowance for my sd in fact when I applied ( not my ex ) to the CMS I wanted to give what is due CMS was given the facts and they allowed for my sd I did not ask or claim incidentally your sexist comment that absent fathers appear to dodge what’s due is sexist as many women breadwinners pay their ex husbands cm who are actually the resident parent
now get off my back