Well truthfully j consider myself fortunate in some respects.
I have 4 children my youngest is the reason I am here .
She has numerous health conditions that drastically decrease her life expectancy and her quality of life .
When I first gave birth her father and I agreed we would pay half for everything. This however changed when I got into a new relationship, he cut off the phone contract that he provided so he could always contact me and facetime her, he stopped paying towards clothes and nappies.
I still got a healthy amount of £50 a week but that doesn’t go far when you have a 3 year old who has epilepsy and is blind .she eats a substantial amount and it all has to be organic.
Due to sensitive skin even bath and laundry products cost her an extortionate amount. I find £50 just about covers her food most weeks.
He doesn’t visit his child and has never done any personal care for our child and I am lucky to get him to pick her up and drop her off at nursery one day a week .
The 20 minute drive there and back is the only time he has his daughter in his care.
My new relationship broke down after a year because my partner came out as gay, we remain friends however and sadly my daughter’s father has reported me to social services for having a gay boyfriend and not sending my child to nursery after he came back and told me they wasn’t handling her properly .
Social services have said no further action will be taken all is well from their perspective but what do I do about the father of my child?
All I have ever done is try to get him to be a father!
He causes endless drama and is only happy when he doesn’t have to see her or help her financially .
Thank you if you managed to decipher my emotionally charged ramblings .
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This reply was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by Sue.