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    Lucym122
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    Hello, me and my baby’s dad split in December. He was offered by me 50/50 split of our child which he refused. He currently has he 4 nights a month and sees her twice a week for a few hours. Since December I have asked for child maintenance which was also refused, (I also have another child which isn’t his) I don’t work as I cannot afford childcare. In March he did 1 night having her during the week and refused to do it again. So a few weeks ago I contacted CSA regarding the issue and they agreed with me and got in touch with him about having to pay for his child. He was not happy about this and is now trying to get 50/50 so he doesn’t have to pay. Today I have received a mediation letter regarding child arrangements. I am refusing this as I cannot afford it but also he’s trying his best to get out of paying. Any advice is much needed, thank you.

    #56171 Report

    steve3334
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    if mediation fails or not necessary, mediator will give him permission to apply to court. if it goes to court, he will probably argue for 50/50 equal care. but there is no guarantee he will get it.

    #56174 Report

    Lucym122
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    Thank you, I have left a message for the mediator to call me back. I’m not wanting to go ahead due to the reasons of he never wanted this for 7 months and now csa are involved he’s trying to pull all the cards out to avoid it. I’ve got her in a settled routine and she has had it for 7 months she’s only 1 so I don’t want it cause any issues with her

    #56175 Report

    Pjk1989
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    I am a single dad who has paid huge court fee’s because my ex wont let me see my child. She has been hounding me for money regarding paying for my son which I refused because I want to see him. I would pay for my child if she let me see him I work with kids and I also am no threat to my child so she has no reason to do this now child maintenance are threatening to take 688 pound from my wages each month to collect fee’s that have been back logged. I have paid 2500 for court and she is still being difficult and for it to progress I would have to pay even more. Now for a dad who wants shared care with his son she isn’t playing fair i am looking for some advice on how to get the child maintenance team of my back and if theres a way where I can start paying what I am infact meant to because I’m slowly seeing my son again with great difficulty.

    #56192 Report

    steve3334
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    hi,

    so with courts, what kind of arrangement are you seeking and what have cafcass recommended?

    once court is over, you send CMS a copy of the order, and they will reduce your payments based on overnight shared care. if you owe arrears then they will keep chasing you for it. if you have refused to pay or co-operate with CMS then they will only give you more grief. I understand you can ask for arrears to be spread over a 2 year period, so its more affordable. Try to avoid being put on collect and pay scheme.

    #56206 Report

    Pjk1989
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    Caffcass have recommended that I start seeing him more because he wants to see me yet she is trying to stop it because he likes spending time with me. The process is 4 hours at a time then over night visits to my house 2 times a week and in the six weeks holidays shared care 1 week on one week off

    #56207 Report

    steve3334
    Participant

    recommendations look great. hope it goes well for you 🙂

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