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    Tez123
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    My child 3 nearly 4 has said she doesnt want to go to her dads she screams and kicks off till i go pick her back up she refuses, so her dad has been coming to see her on a saturday day time but hes saying i shouldnt be giving her that choice as shes only 3 what would you all do any advice would be appreciated.

    #63008 Report

    I’m really sorry you’re having this problem. My son was the same at 3 years old (now 7) I know how stressful it can be for yourself and your child. Stick to your ground you’re not denying dad contact and therefore there is no issues. You’re just trying to help the transition for your daughter which is completely understandable. Maybe see if she would have a few hours just her and dad at yours if it’s something you’re comfortable with. Also you and her visiting her dad’s may help her associate his home with you and her normal day to day life.

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    Tez123
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    Thank you for the advice i will give the idea ago,

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    I needaliein
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    Hi,

    This may be obvious, but have you asked her about why she doesn’t want to go?

    Maybe there’s something in particular that’s bothering her that’s fairly easy to sort.

    Did anything happen that upset her/frightened her the last time she went with no prob if she used to be OK going?

    Sometimes small things/differences in routines can seem scary at that age- esp. at bedtime.. . Just a thought ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Tez123
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    Yeah i have and she just says just because, and i just love my mummy, dad says nothing has happend, all i did was drop her off as usual but she kicking off crying saying she doesnt want to be there ever since she just doesnt want to go.

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    I needaliein
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    Hi Tez123, sounds pretty tricky…Agree with others forcing her a bad plan, but can be tricky to have his contact as urs..is there any activity they can do together that she’d enjoy? I know it’s harder in winter & with risks for covid etc- library, swimming, playground/soft play maybe? Repeating activities so she knows what to expect and can look forward to it might help her? then gradually reintroduce going to Dad’s as part of it- eg playground then back to dad’s for lunch. Having an activity that is ‘their thing’ might help? It makes it feel more special. Maybe little but often is better for her (a pain for you perhaps?) for now, rather than a long stint on a Saturday? Just a thought. Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

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    ArtyJane
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    My 12 year old refuses to go and see his dad and because of this the 9 year old won’t go without him.

    Frustrating as my ex is off out dancing and living a care free life and I’m at home with my kids. It’s just work and kids on a repeating loop. I’d love some child free time every now and then.

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