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    Dorota
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    You are not the only one with no friends. I, additionally, have no family around, as i came to UK 16 years ago, leaving everyone behind.

    I have been married for 14 years, to a man who was emotionally absent and never really let me into his life. He has neglect all my concerns, kept gaslighting me, destroyed all my confidence and self esteem to the point, where i have withdrawn myself from life completely, falling into depression. Then he decided he wasn’t happy, as i stopped attending to his needs, and left me. So I too have developed this mechanism of pushing people away and turning away from people, as a coping mechanisms to avoid being hurt. I know exactly what you are talking about. I don’t think however i am at the stage yet, that i want to change it. Its too petrifying.

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    Mumof2preteen&bubba
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    Hi Emmey

    I’m so glad to hear that my over share didn’t put anybody off 😁. I am determined to turn my life around and hope to make some real friends through here.

    What are doing to pass the time during lockdown? Online shopping and baking have become my go to, I need to stop or I’m not going to fit through the door come release day πŸ™„πŸ˜‚

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    Mumof2preteen&bubba
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    hi Dorota, I’m so sorry that you don’t feel to be in a place where you are confident to reach out yet, but the fact you are here on gingerbread is a good sign to me?!? Taking back some control and spending some time on here is surely a good thing. I really hope that we can chat some more through here.

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    EmXOX
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    Hi mumof2preteenandbubba. No definitely hasn’t put me off! πŸ˜€ You sound a lot like me! I’m a mum to a 16 year old son and an 8 year old daughter πŸ™‚

    I’ve been trying to keep busy by reading, doing quizzes and puzzles when I’m not busy with my children but always looking for new ideas! I know what you mean about the cooking lol I’ve put a fair bit of weight on since this started! I keep joking that nobody will get within 2 metres of me because my belly will stop them πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ xx

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    EmXOX
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    Hi Dorita, I’m sorry to get that too. It will get easier though and you’ll start to want to put yourself out there and meet new people (I’ve kind of been in the same position, my confidence and self esteem was zero in the end, although had family around me so was a little easier) it was a very hard time and took me a while to deal with the aftermath but I finally feel like I’m making progress! πŸ™‚ xx

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    Mumof2preteen&bubba
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    Hi Emmey, it’s good to know that you have your family around. Mine all emigrated around 6 years ago and I have no contact with them so it’s just me and the children. Son aged 13 and my daughter age 4. (She thinks she is 44 but that’s another story πŸ˜‚).

    I like puzzles too, the escape game kind. Would love to try one of those escape room type nights out when this is over.Β  I live in Croydon, south London. Where are you?

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    Mumof2preteen&bubba
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    How often does everybody pop on here to check chat responses? Would like to make some friends on here 😁

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    Ashandy
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    Hi everyone, i just joined this forum. Am a single mum with two teenagers doing their own thing😁especially during this lockdown. Am available to Chat to get over the boredom.

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    Debbie10
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    Hi, I’m in the same situation, 2 teenagers that are constantly on their devices! Would like to make some friends on here😊

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    EmXOX
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    Hi Mumof2preteen&babba, I know what you mean about the little ones … my 8 year old goes from acting like a teenager to acting like a lil old lady sometimes πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

    I like the idea of trying one of those escape rooms too (wish I had before lockdown!) So it’s on my lost od things to do once this is over lol.

    I’m in North East Lincolnshire πŸ™‚

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    EmXOX
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    I just usually come on when Iget chance … I don’t receive notifications or emails or anything to let me know if anyone has commented or messaged (even though I put my settings to do that lol) do only see when I come on xx

    #40349 Report

    EmXOX
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    Hi Ashandy and Debbie πŸ™‚

    I have a 16 year old son who likes to do his own thing 😁 He does join me and his little sister for games, films and quiz nights sometimes though lol πŸ˜€

    I’m always up for a chat and will reply when I can πŸ™‚

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    BluebirdSue
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    Hi Emmy I’m glad you signed up to gingerbread πŸ˜€ hope you meet some nice people but exercise caution. Not everyone is nice online x

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    EmXOX
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    Hi Bluebirdsue πŸ™‚ Thank you and I will πŸ˜€ xx

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    Lovingmummy
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    Hi all, sorry to hear you are going through hard times, you are not alone, it’s important to talk to someone and share the feelings. Surprisingly how many single parents are in the same situation, but sometimes we lock ourselves within our inner world and suffer quietly. I’m a single mum of an 8 year old daughter. I’d love to find some new friends here too and have lovely chats. Please feel free to pm me any time

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