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    Dht453
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    Hi,

    I recently split up from my wife and it was my decision as the love had gone.  We have 50/50 custody which I’m pleased about, but my mind is constantly bombarded with negative thoughts and I can’t take it anymore.  From the moment I get up until the moment I go to bed I’m thinking that… my kids had a dad there every night and now they don’t/my wife is going to meet someone else and have the family life with my girls that I wanted (but couldn’t with her) and I’m already thinking what they’ll be doing together in the bedroom we once shared even though there is no other guy on the scene (that I know of)/I’m thinking of the holidays that they’ll have as a new family when she does meet someone/I’m thinking what it was like to be part of a family unit and now I’m living in a strange rented house and am so alone.  I feel sick with anxiety and depression about it every day and can only see it getting worse as time goes on and she meets someone else.

    Is it normal to feel like this even though it was me who left?  It’s taken me by surprise and I broke down with it today.

     

     

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    yes it is quite normal to feel all these powerful emotions, as this has happened very recently. I would suggest you look up some relationship coaches. if you get time, go on youtube and look up black hole thinking. I think it would benefit you.

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    Gummibear123
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    All you said is true or potentially true at least and none of it is nice so its  depressing. Interesting..There are so many people on here in deep and dire   pain and anguish ,suffering from real trauma and loss yet I don’t see many recommendations on the value of seeing a therapist to help process  the challenges and life changes presented.Dht453, no wonder you feel as you say you do.,No man is an island etc,finding someone to talk it all over with is a massive support..Failing that,therapy really helps one to think out loud and stay rational.But not for the faint of heart😂

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