Cant stop crying for no reason.
23 August 2021 at 5:47 pm #57943
<span style=”font-size: 17px;”>Sometimes I’m just sat there crying and I don’t no why. My daughter went to my parents for a sleep over and I had nothing too do, so I went home, iv never felt so on my own in life, all my friends have boyfriend/ husbands and are doing things together. I do spend a lot of time with my parents cause I hate been on my own so much, as much as my daughter is brill and always makes me smile and laugh its not the same as been around adults, I feel bad sometimes for putting on my parents so much, I do talk to my mom and she’s great she’s the one who told me to come on here, my dad just tells me to get a grip but saying it and doing it are two very different things and it’s not easy to do. I do try and set myself goals which is okay for about a week then something happens and I right back too feel crap and crying again. I feel like my friends get sick of me too all I do is moan to them, I used to be the life and soul of the party but the past 3 years its like all the fun has be sucked out of me and I just cant get back to what I was. I really dont no how too change it.</span>
<span style=”font-size: 17px;”>Sorry if iv repeated myself slitter as well.</span>
<!–/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_210823_174544_927.sdocx–>23 August 2021 at 6:49 pm #57949
Sorry to read your feeling like this, but you are not alone. It can be such a identity change being a parent & think it can be too easy for life to become all about the kids & we can all feel a bit of a loss of what to do with ourselves when we get a break! It’s alright to feel low or at a loss, but if it’s on-going it could be a sign of depression. Anyone can experience depression for so many reasons, but all the hard work & changes parenting brings, it can happen to anyone. when i felt very low i found Pandas foundation were a great help… they don’t care is your child is 0 or 20! parental low mood is parental low mood – they have a free helpline, loads of great advice & signposting & also have groups (although not in the loop atm, so maybe best to contact to see!)
eventbrite & council newsletter’s can be great to find activities or zoom for support, wellbeing or just something new to do.
hope that helps xx things will get better xx23 August 2021 at 6:59 pm #57951
Thank you I’ll check that site out. When ever I try talking to people they just tell me to enjoy me time but they don’t understand how I feel cause they have never been in my situation if that makes sense.23 August 2021 at 7:56 pm #57954
makes total sense. I think folk mean well when they say stuff like ‘just get on with it’ or ‘tell’ someone to ‘just be happy’… but if that worked.. nobody would have any issues ever right? sometimes it’s because folk just don’t have the tools or words to understand or support & likely struggled alone themselves in many ways… but thankfully there are lots of people who do understand & can help, so there is hope 🙂 a lot more stuff in schools now about mental wellbeing too, so hopefully the kids will have an easier time than we do finding the right support when needed.
– i found this article in metro news helped validate the experience & give hope too 🙂23 August 2021 at 9:22 pm #57958
Thank you 😊