can I force a sale for a financial settlement?

[Francesco.O]

Married, two children, house husband, my wife forced me to move out and changed the locks the next day. Her new partner moved in the next day probably, my children living with him since then. I wonder what they will think about my ex one day, oh dear.  Ex asked for divorce, the house it’s a 5  bedroom and I’m renting a room in a house share, I see the children every other weekend, I’m working full time and so she is but earn way more than me. House is owned by her and I have my name in the land registry. Her form E was very evasive and incomplete. She refused my offer and proposed an amount way below mine, obviously, I’m asking a bit less than my first offer and see. My question is if anyone can help; how can I force my ex to a sale, is she entitled to make me wait until children are 18?

[Francesco.O]

Thank you Anonymous, I’m not on the mortgage, everything was under her name….to be realistic she can downsize to a 3 bedroom from a 5 bedroom and at list give me a deposit for me to buy at list a one bedroom. When the kids stay at mine for 3 nights we sleep 3 in one bed while her partner lives full time there from day one. I don’t think it’s fare. Especially for the kids. The kids need the father as much as a mother and specially when I was the main carer and looking after the housework’s.

[Francesco.O]

Well maybe the court will decide if I’m not happy with her new offer, or I shall wait for the kids to be 18 and will get more, she could be in a hurry to move on or get married, not until she pays me out.

I have evidence of me working part time and looking after the kids and home.

I have legal advise by the way. I don’t expect to get much just enough to get myself a small place, my ex is just greedy, she don’t really need a 5 bedroom house and my kids want to spend more time with me. maybe I should ask to have them more but I know the answer already.

[Francesco.O]

Well what I’m really astonished is the fact that my disgusting ex she is going away with what seams like she was cheating she used me for the length of our relationship while her career took off and as soon as she found a younger wealthy man she forced me out. My only mistake was to move out and listen to the wrong people. I should have stay in with my children.

[Francesco.O]

Which sentiment?

[Sherinam]

I stayed put in the home that belonged to my ex. He cleared off and that was that . In the end he was forced to sell me the home that he bought in his name .

You are entitled to money from the property  so don’t be put off with what people write on here!

[Francesco.O]

Thank you Sherima. I’ll take your advice. I will try my best for my children, they are my priority.

[Francesco.O]

So, now my ex won’t let me have the kids overnight every other weekend instead only on Sundays and this is just because I don’t have space for them in my place as I rent a room and share a house while she lives with her new partner in the 6 bedroom family home in south London. She doesn’t want to buy me out as I asked my part of the assets. Anyone can suggest something?

[Sherinam]

You need to get legal advice because you need to give evidence that you contributed towards the home in order to finalize settlement . Also you live in a room in a shared house so not  suitable for children to stay over. Now that you have moved out you won’t be able to go back because you are not homeless and quite comfortable. So rather than continue on here asking for advice you need to see if you can find sympathetic lawyer but they are not expensive. You should stop listening to people and who ever advised you to move out in the first place is not your friend .

[GingerbreadJustine]

Hi there

I’ve just been reading through this thread.  With any legal issues it is really important that the advisers are trained and up to date with current legislation, otherwise the wrong information may be given.  This is why we are clear in our guidelines that the forum is there to share experiences and chat with other parents and is not there for advice and information.

Our Single Parent Helpline is available today between 10 – 1 & 5 – 7.  Tomorrow and Friday they are open between 10 – 4.  0808 802 0925.  They will be able to explore your options and signpost you to the correct professional agency for legal and housing advise.

Another option could be contacting Shelter. They will also be able to give you professional housing advice. https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help

I hope that helps, Justine

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