Hi all,
Brand new here so big hello to everyone!
So I’m now just over 13 weeks pregnant. The dad and I are really, really off and on and I can see it ending pretty soon. We don’t live together but he’s been quite supportive
Anyway, he has two young children (about 3yo now) from a one night stand he had just before we met. He’s always said he hates the mum, barely knows her, they had sex once, doesn’t want anything to do with her so they have no contact at all. He tells me he pays maintenance. I’ve always disagreed with his reaction on this, to not want to step up, be involved, and be an active dad (even said he doesn’t even have to see her or speak to her to arrange this) but he won’t listen to me. And there’s not much more I can do. But this is one of the reasons we have been so up and down. I don’t want to raise my child with it not knowing about it’s step brother and sister?
I’m digressing. But my question is if we do end up splitting for good and he decides he wants the child to stay at his etc, can I deny that? Because he hasn’t bothered with the others? And by the way of course I wouldn’t deny access, but what are his actual rights in this situation? Same as any other one?
Thanks so much for any advice 😊