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    Billie38
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    Hi all my ex partner is taking me 2 court for access 2 our sons aged 14 & 11.  I havent never stopped him having access 2 our boys but back in easter my youngest had gone for a few days to spend with him and i had seen with my own eyes he was left unsuperivsed upstairs (flat) whille he was working in the shop downstairs (off licence).  I later found out that out of the 3 days my youngest spent 1 full day with him while the other 2 was while he was working and my son was left to the xbox all day.  My solictor had stated this was illegal as being under age 16 & in premises that sells alchol etc so i stopped my son going.  Everything was stated in letter stating if he could put in writing that he would close the shop or arrange cover in the shop while he had my sons over visit.  Again its took from easter until now 2 keep stating hes taking me to court over it when again all my solictors letter state all i’m asking for is comfirmation that he supervise them whilst in his care! (is that 2 much to ask.

    So i know cafcass will b involved but how far they go i dont know? bearing in mind i left in the 1st place because he has mental health & he was abusive to me.  My sons know this although i never reported this due to state i was in (broken) but im in a better place now with my sons and i have my family support behind us.

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    Swardgraecy
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    When I was 11, I was working full time already.

    Those were different times of course.We were living on a farm and I was working with all sort of tools unsuperwised.Those tools comared to a X-Box would be leathal weapons 🙂

    Father being working while the kid is having fun upstaires with an xbox doesn’t ring any danger bells.He tries to make a living and with that provide.He misses his kids.-that is also a sign of Humanity. You don’t like him,that much is obvious,but that doesn’t mean that he is a bad person or doing thing wrong.

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    Billie38
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    I’m sorry but I don’t agree with what you are saying. My son isant the most responsible child and in a event of emergency he would probably not have any idea. He’s not capable of making himself something to eat. As for his dad the shop is downstairs what if he had emergency downstairs eg something being stolen and he’s chasing him down the street then what??

    As for eldest he’s doesn’t visit or have any contact with him due to what he did to me prior to leaving. Yeah right I’m not fond of him only I feel as parent his children should b his 1st priority not 2nd!

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    Swardgraecy
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    Have a chat with him.Communication makes wonders.But keep it on the rational non judgemental level.No need for name calling.

    I am sure he loves his kids. Some maybe needs pointers here and there how to express that love, but love comes from the best place of our existence.

     

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