Can anybody shed some light or give me any advice :
I have a telephone appointment with CAFCAS regarding a section 7 report that has been requested by court about my child’s father… I’m really nervous about what they are going to ask or what I have to mention I don’t want to mention non relevant things that make me sound like I am just tit for tatting about my ex , but maybe something that sounds stupid to me may be important – any help would be much appreciated so I can have a good nights sleep and relax !!!
Hi. I have just been through this. Don’t be nervous, CAFCAS just want what is best for your child. The person I dealt with was kind and understanding and patient. All I can advise is be honest with out being critical. CAFCAS want to know what is best for the child so if there is some thing that upsets your child or that your child likes or dislikes regards contact with their father or you for that matter then tell CAFCAS that. If CAFCAS are seeing your child then hopefully they will back up what you say unless they are to young to or unable to. Anything that is important to you must be said no matter how ‘stupid’ you think it sounds. CAFCAS and the courts want contact with both parents so if you show you are willing fort his to happen then I am sure they will help where they can with the issues that are happening. If there is abuse or anything untoward tell them, they need to know all your concerns to safe guard you child if that is the case. They will go through a series of questions so try to answer them directly as you can and keep emotion out of it where possible, they want the facts and are not interested in who did what and why. If you have any thing positive to say about your Childs father around contact, mention it as they will try to ensure that goes into the order. Wishing you luck, don’t be nervous, you will be fine and go to bed knowing that through CAFCASS your childs voice can be heard by someone other than you. Much love and thoughts x
Thank you so much I really appreciate it- CAFCAS won’t be speaking to child as he is only a baby- so i feel my voice is his voice as he can’t tell me so I have to just put my mother’s instinct and make sure my child is safe and looked after well! He is only getting supervised access every weekend but he is convinced that he will be getting 50/50 shared household access after this which he has never spent more than 4 hours away from me never mind stayed out the night so makes me very anxious and I am representing myself where as he has a solictor and it’s her who is telling him he will get shared custody so it all makes me nervous as I don’t want to mess up and let my child down just want what’s best and for him to be safe