So today my husband dropped the bombshell that he’s leaving. Apparently he’s leaving or he’s having an affair! No warning nothing. And while I went for a walk to try and clear my head he decided to tell our 10 & 12 year old children. My 10 year old immediately ran me in tears. I went back and in no uncertain terms told him to leave now. We are all heartbroken and I don’t know how we’re going to get through this. He’s coming round at 12 tomorrow to pick up some stuff and discuss things, I have a list of practical things I want to discuss but I really don’t want to hear his excuses.
I feel for you and just remember things do get better in time. My husband just walked out after 19 years and two kids in foreign country (I was born and grew up in a different country). That was in 2012 and now I am much more happy with myself then that time even though I am going through a separation from someone I was seeing in the last 3 years. You will struggle to see the light at the end of the tunnel for a bit and would feel it will never happen but it does in time. I know from my experience and feel free to talk anyone or yourself and cry lots to take out the pain. If I can survive without much English and profession to over loneliness and sadness anyone can do it.
I was so worried about my kids and what negative effects it would have but it made them stronger and mature. Also, we are become three musketeers to be there for each other. The kids just need love and attention and you will have time to give them that because relationship takes so much of your time.
Talking is is the best therapy in my view. Talk to strangers who would not judge you and be strong.