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    Wanderer.
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    Evening all,

    Am struggling at the moment financially. Previously i was receiving income support but i stopped because i went through a really bad phase in depression and felt like a burden on tax payers. It’s been nearly 10 months since i stopped and we (my child pre school age & i )are struggling to live on just child tax cred & benefit = £84/week.

    Would it be wrong of me to apply for universal credits ?  Just getting winter clothes and coats this month has really taken a big pinch out of our budget.

    Am feeling so crappy & depressed. Have no family near by for support and can’t afford to go see them as they are on the other side of the world.

    Please be kind, am blue & low.

    #17371 Report

    Anonymous
    Inactive

    omg don’t feel wrong for applying for benefits that you are eligible for, you are no burden on anyone, have you seen what they’re spending on nuclear weapons? Or the huge amount of money that they don’t pay to eligible people because nobody applies for it? The whole point of benefits is to support you and your kid through difficult times, do not do yourself down. It is not shameful in any way whatsoever. Ignore the media and political strivers/shirkers dialogue its a lot of rubbish. Stay strong and do not let them shame you, there are plenty of people in the same situation.

    #17381 Report

    Roses
    Moderator

    Hi Umm

    Sorry to hear that you’re struggling, it sounds like you’re going through a tough time. We hope you get support from other posters on the forum.

    If you want advice on benefits and what financial support you might be entitled to, Gingerbread has a free and confidential expert advice helpline. You can speak to the advisers on 0808 802 0925 to get advice on your situation. You also might want to look at the information on our website about managing money and finances 

    Take care

    Rose

    #17485 Report

    Wanderer.
    Participant

    Thank you zhDad & Rose.

    Really appreciate the kind words & support.  I shall make a few calls in work hours.

    #17490 Report

    April
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    Same feeling umm. I went to the council last week.. waited 5 hours to be called. Told my situation, separated, have a 7 year old, after the separation i flew to the other part of the world where my family are. Like you i do not have family support here… 🙁 I came back as i realised i have to think about my son’s schooling and his opportunities in this country, we are naturalised british anyway…

    the council said because i decided to fly back home and left the UK, I made myself “intentionally homeless”. I can not believe that. Like you i feel ashamed for running to get benefits straight away thats why i thought about flying home first. Also we can not afford the rent and the tenancy agreement was due to renew then, so me and my ex husband decided to leave the property.

    I can not put my son and myself in a situation that we actually live on the streets or live with friends for the council to take my case seriously and help me because we are homeless… 🙁

    #17496 Report

    Wanderer.
    Participant

    Dear April,

    I read your post with tears in my eyes. It really is very sad and frustrating to see another mother and child suffer. I know my words won’t heal the feelings you must be going through currently but if you do want to chat then please feel free to.inbox me. Sometimes we need those who understand just to listen so the burden feels a little less for a few minutes.

    Please contact citizen advice beaure* (cab office) and see what your rights are in this situation.

    Bless you & your son.

    Xx

    #17577 Report

    Mumofone1
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    Don’t be ashamed or feel a burden for being on or applying for benefits, they are there for times like now. They are there to help. I’m on benefits, I buy clothes for myself and daughter on shpock as toddlers don’t get much wear out of them, sell them on there as well, buy them from charity shops and give old toys and clothes to charity shops. I’m not embarrassed as I couldn’t afford to take my daughter out to places or buy her new shoes, birthday and Xmas presents if I didn’t.

    #17579 Report

    TrevCarp
    Participant

    OMG

    You No it not wrong, our benefit system is in no way perfect but it there for a reason, and what you said, you defiantly need to claim. I am a single father of a 4 year old boy, I was like a rabbit in the headlights and didn’t have a clue where to turn. I had worked all my life, so at first I really struggled, and stir do.

    I love you to not look it as being a something to be ashamed off. You are doing the hardest job, brining up a child, you and your children need the extra help, thats why it is there.

    Universal credit will be able to help, however I truly believe the system is set up to push (no assist) people back to work, so you have to strong and keep your appointments, they can seem very unsympathetic or caring on occasions, but please please be strong and get the benefits you deserve.

     

     

    #17580 Report

    TrevCarp
    Participant

    OMG

    You No it not wrong, our benefit system is in no way perfect but it there for a reason, and what you said, you defiantly need to claim. I am a single father of a 4 year old boy, I was like a rabbit in the headlights and didn’t have a clue where to turn. I had worked all my life, so at first I really struggled, and stir do.

    I love you to not look it as being a something to be ashamed off. You are doing the hardest job, brining up a child, you and your children need the extra help, thats why it is there.

    Universal credit will be able to help, however I truly believe the system is set up to push (no assist) people back to work, so you have to strong and keep your appointments, they can seem very unsympathetic or caring on occasions, but please please be strong and get the benefits you deserve.

    If you ever need someone to just chat with, you can private message me too.

     

    #17604 Report

    April
    Participant

    Thanks all for the advices. I just came back from the Jobcentre today and i was given an appointment for the universal credit interview on Friday.

    i hope everything goes well… they seemed to be more helpful compared to my experience in the Council.

    #17609 Report

    Wanderer.
    Participant

    April that’s good news. Wishing you all the best in advance for Friday. Hope all goes well.

    #17611 Report

    TrevCarp
    Participant

    April, Awesome news, I think UC have had so much bad press they are now having to change, after all their job are on the line to make it happen.

    Have they told you what you need to take. I had a nightmare in the past one saying bring this i bring that and another says you need to bring different.

    They will definitely need to see ID, address details, Bank statement, and copies of any other income.

    Umm how about you, I love to hear good news that you have an appointment soon.

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