Being threatened with court. Need advice on preparing for court proceedings

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    Mummy_of_2
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    Hi,

    My ex has recently been bragging to people close to me about taking me to court about our 2 children. He has told my 11 year old aswell and told him not to say anything to me. He actually thought I was going to get sent to prison because his dad never explained anything properly to him.

    I have never stopped him seeing the children, although there have been times where arrangements have had to change on my part. I have tried everything possible to make sure my children and their dad still have a bond and he throws it in my face each time. He was possessive, controlling and emotionally abusive when we were together and even though we have split up he has still been like this with me.

    He now has supervised contact twice a week through family members as he has given me a lot of cause not to trust him. He is also very unaware of how he’s mentally affecting my oldest child and blames me for everything that has gone wrong and is going wrong in his life. I have no contact with him except if there is a problem contact arrangements.

    He never follows through with anything he says, but I am trying to get prepared incase he does actually take me to court. Could anyone give me some advice on what I could do to help me prepare if this does go ahead? Any advice would be appreciated.

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    if he applies to court, you would receive paperwork with a date for hearing. if it comes to that and your not going to be represented by a lawyer, I would recommend you write a 2 page position statement and take that to court. Would it be possible for him to have unsupervised contact? if things become more amicable then there would be no need to go to court.

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    Mummy_of_2
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    Hi,

    No, I don’t feel comfortable him having them alone. He lies quite a lot. I’m not sure if he knows he’s saying 1/2 the things he does say are not appropriate. My ex has told me that he is “on the edge of doing something stupid” in that frame of mind I cannot allow my children to be alone with someone like that.

    He has used emotional abuse towards me and is doing it with my oldest child. He has told him that he was taking me to court and not to tell me. He thought his dad was going to send me to prison and didn’t feel like he could tell me because his dad had told him not to.

    At first he was seeing them alone, but after so many unstable things he had said I couldn’t live with myself if he did do something and my children witnessed, not to mention the mental affect he is having on them with the things he is saying.

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