so last week was my 11 month olds first night away from me to spend with her dad. I dropped her off, and hour later his gf arrives to stay the weekend. What am I meant to think? I feel betrayed and disgusted I wasn’t told, especially first night should be calm and settling for baby not a stranger about?
Though this will be controversial. I wouldn’t encourage you to give overnights at 11 months.
How do you know the gf arrived? Sadly, this is something outside of your control and something that you don’t have to be informed about. However, I would word it with your ex as if he wishes to have a positive co-parenting relationship he needs to share such key elements. Sadly this sounds like they’re playing doll/family/baby this weekend!
I wouldn’t be happy with that at all either. You need to speak to your ex and find who she is and things about her. I’d be worried he could leave baby alone with her, was she safe and capable. Worryingly you never know these days.
I’d leave the overnights till baby is older. Speak to your health visitor for some advice.