avoiding paying maintanence

[Stripes]

My Ex has always paid the right amount and on time, I have been lucky I guess.  We have been apart for many years but didn’t divorce. Once we went for divorce, he began to argue about money, wanting more money which was never there to have but things turned bitter and he threatened to give up his job so he didn’t have to pay maintenance. Because we were just about to go to court, my solicitor wrote to his explaining that it would not look good on my ex if he gave up work on purpose…so he didn’t and continued in the job whilst he continuously took me to court…4 times. Now court is over and I have to give him a payout, he has just handed his notice in and has said he will therefore have to stop maintenance (obviously, he’ll be fine as he’ll have his pay out, but I have increased my mortgage to pay him off so I will have increased monthly payments, and  now, no maintenance, so he’ll be really comfortable with plenty of money in the bank, whilst we struggle…what can I do? His actions a both reckless and unfair

[Kathymumofone]

He is entitled to stop work. I assume he will live off his lump sum for a while but unless you paid him a huge amount of money, that isn’t going to last long.

I suggest you put in a CMS claim against him, and tell them what he has done. Provide them with details of the payment. They may make an adjustment, but at the very least, the claim will be open for when he goes back to work, which he will have to do eventually.

[Stripes]

The amount is 60K which I am having to put on the mortgage so I will have am increased monthly mortgage payment. He was on 70K per year we have 3 children so the mount he was paying was £900 per month. I am self employed and there is no way I can make up that shortfall especially as I am currently unable to work, thanks for your help though

[Cypher]

Hi Stripes,
The very best you can do right now is contact the Child Maintance Service.  However unique your situation, it’s most likely they’ve already got the T-shirt.
Regardless of whether your Ex is working or not, he is by Law held accountable as the father of your children and required to contribute financially to their wellbeing until they are 18.
However much or little that eventually turns out to be, start from there and take small steps, is my humble advice..
All things take time to become clear.

G’bless,

-Cypher-

 

• This reply was modified 1 year ago by Cypher.

[backontheshelf]

He sounds as manipulative and vindictive as my Ex.

[Cypher]

So was mine, and a she not a he.
Regardless, we should and will stick together, here and where we are in r/l

Bless,

-Cypher-

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