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    laoretta
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    Hi there,

    I wondered if any of you had applied for a full custody when the father was not really involved in your child(ren)’s life? My son’s father is in South Africa and calls him regularly for friendly chats but doesn’t visit him, doesn’t provide child support. We’re in good terms, but he just can’t be bothered with the admin of parenthood, which makes my life unnecessarily hard. Last example being that I am registering my son as French (which I am) so he has a EU passport and the possibility to relocated there easily if my mother becomes unwell I need to care for her. But he can’t be bothered queuing at the townhall to get his birth certificate etc. He is all for my son getting the French nationality, but without his help. I am just worried that this will be a pattern for everything in life, schools, medical care, if we need to relocate etc…

    Someone on Frolo mentioned that I should apply for full custody. But I find the information available online pretty slim. Would that mean I would not need his signature anymore for traveling, healthcare, life admin? Also, although not involved in the duty side of parenting, my son and him have a good relationship in video calls, which I support. I can’t say he is an awful dad, he is just an obstacle to making life happen… He is more of an uncle in a way.

    #54648 Report

    steve3334
    Participant

    if you get a court order for resident parent, then you can take child abroad for 28 days without permission from other parent. practically you are the resident parent, but just not on paper.

    #54650 Report

    laoretta
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    <span style=”color: #222222; font-family: ‘Helvetica Neue’, Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14.4px;”>”The resident parent makes the general day to day decisions concerning the upbringing of the child and this should be done with limited interference from the other parent. These decisions will be decisions about how the household will function and the child’s daily routine. If the other parent has Parental Responsibility, the major decisions concerning the upbringing of the child should be made together. Such decisions can include, for example, where the child should attend school, what religion the child should be brought up with, the child’s name etc.”</span>

    Wouldn’t change much to my life though… would it?

     

     

    #54659 Report

    steve3334
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    if your ex is not causing issues, then maybe no point in applying for residency order.

    #54660 Report

    laoretta
    Participant

    He just doesn’t want to be bothered signing important papers… Which won’t change unless his responsibility is taken away I seem to understand?

    Cheers for the answer though.

    #54665 Report

    steve3334
    Participant

    I don’t think it’s much of an issue. my ex moved kids from house to house, school to school and I was left in the dark completely. I have heard other situations where resident parents are even changing children’s names without involving the other parent. I don’t think a court will consider giving a residency order, as your ex is in another country and he is not disputing anything with you, am assuming.

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