Apply for court order to father to see child more often
22 October 2020 at 10:37 am #45005
I separated from my daughter’s father almost two years ago.
Now he moved to hours away and visits the child every other weekend if he manages to turn up.
We have child maintenance payments in place.
I got two questions.
One, that he is asking for petrol money to visit his daughter, however, he is the one who moved away.
The second is, that my family lives abroad, I am alone with my daughter and I full time.
I pay full 40 hours a week childcare for school holidays, and I would like him to contribute, or visit his daughter more often, because on half terms I pay around £800 childcare a month, and his child maintenance, £150 a month isn’t really a big help.
If I apply on court, is there any chance that a judge will order him to visit more often than every other week?
Many thanks for any help.22 October 2020 at 2:54 pm #45014
Firstly your answer to question 1 is he cant request for yourself to pay petrol money towards his travel to see his daughter.
Secondly he does not have to pay towards childcare as that is your responsibility and he pays child maintenance
A judge cant unfortunately force a dad to see his daughter more often or even force a dad to have any contact whatsoever.
You would think of course that dads would want to see their children as much as possible22 October 2020 at 3:20 pm #45022
Hello, as you are seeking advice you may also wish to call the Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline on 0808 802 0925 to speak to one of our advisers about your situation.
Alex22 October 2020 at 3:29 pm #45024
I have a friend who said the judge ordered the father to see their child even more than she was applying for. How is that possible then if you say they can’t force a parent to see their child? How is it an order then?
Thanks22 October 2020 at 3:32 pm #45025
Hi, Its normally dads going to family court to see their children more. Its rare mums taking dads to court to get them to see children more22 October 2020 at 3:35 pm #45026
Me personally i love spending time with my children. I have half of all holidays , every other weekend (drop off at school) and 1 midweek night weekly.
Unfortunately if a dad doesnt want to see their own child/children then courts cant do nothing. It is a real shame though especially for child 🙁 and later in life something for their dad to regret22 October 2020 at 3:39 pm #45027
Sorry, but that doesn’t really answer my question then how is it possible then that I personally know when it happened that the court ordered to see a child more often than the parent applied for?
Also then what happens if we don’t have a court arrangement and I refuse him to visit his daughter then?
Thanks22 October 2020 at 4:19 pm #45029
Hi, If you refused dad to see his daughter he would have to attempt to resolve by attempting mediation with yourself. If no joy with mediation then he would have to fill out a c100 to get contact re-established with his daughter.
Because you werent in court you dont know what happened when your friend was in court with ex partner. he may have agreed to see child more on the day.
A family court cant make a father see his child no matter what. Of course a dad should see his child but it cant be enforced in anyway. Me personally i been to family court for 3-4 years because i wanted to see children and i was denied access. I havent been to family court in 2020 as contact now going ok finally .
With your situation i guess all dad can do realistically is see his daughter every other weekend or at least once a month and have your daughter half of school holidays due to distance