I am a single Mum of 2 (4 and 18 months) we are currently going through messy court stuff as I fled my ex, have had health issues to overcome (now left loads better) back at work full time and have crippling nursery fees but my ex is refusing all CM as he is a property developer so doesn’t have any ‘regular’ income.
I am scared – this isn’t how I imagined my life would turn out. I have to face him in court and go through all that he did to me and my eldest.
I love my children so much, I honestly believe they have saved my life but I am scared I am not good enough and that I am not strong enough to give them all they need. Provide all the need. It’s so hard.
My family were estranged but we are now so grateful for the support they have given us. But it’s all been a shock for them to come to terms with from the outside it looked like we ‘had it all’ I feel like I need to apologies for doing this but know we just wouldn’t have been physically safe if we had stayed a second longer. I don’t know how to make friends really he picked them for me. I have moved across 3 counties to get away from him so have to start again.
Work has been my life line but I am alone and finding it hard. I don’t know who to talk to and how to trust anyone to babysit for me to go out – so I won’t.
I don’t really know what I am doing but I guess this is me reaching out – anyone fancy teaching me how to be human and make a friend with someone? I know I live up her is Staffordshire but am happy to talk/type to anyone who has the time for me.
Thanks for posting here – it can be difficult to work out how to move on after separation. This online community can be a great way of making connections with other parents and I’m sure the parents on here will be happy to share their experiences and offer support to you. You can also check on our website to see if there is a Gingerbread single parent group near you: https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/community/single-parent-groups/
You could also contact our free helpline on 0808 802 0925 to speak to one of our advisers about help with childcare costs and about child maintenance.