Anyone else pregnant & about to become a single mum?
12 November 2019 at 8:38 pm #32817
I’m pregnant with my first baby. I don’t know for sure who the father is, but both are so far not happy with the prospect.
I’m not in a relationship with either, but feeling very alone. Especially due to the reaction I’ve had from them. The one I’m fairly sure is the Dad, I’m in love with (we’ve been seeing each other on and off for a year) but it’s very complicated and he has reacted the worst now that he knows he’s a possible father.
I’m just wondering if there is anyone else in a similar situation. I guess it would be nice to just speak to someone who knows what I’m going through.
Im scared. I’m under my doctor and midwife for help with my mental health because of what’s happened but it would be nice to speak with others.
Thank you12 November 2019 at 9:46 pm #32820
Just read your second post above. Please keep reaching out on here whenever you feel like that even if it’s just a message on the forum, just dont isolate yourself and please just keep talking…. Don’t leave yourself alone with thoughts like that.13 November 2019 at 5:05 pm #32833
Thank you for posting this on the forum. I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I will be sending you a private message with some further signposting.
Kind regards, Justine13 November 2019 at 9:56 pm #32834
Hi, I’m 6 months pregnant with my 4th child and my husband has walked out on me. No real explanation, just a few feeble excuses, but as far as he’s concerned theres no way we can work things out and we’re done, without even trying to work it out. As far as I knew we were happy so it’s all come as a bit of a shock to be honest.
How far gone are you? I know it’s very scary, and not how you imagine having a baby will be, but I promise you will be ok. I was on my own with my eldest, and I’m not going to lie, it is hard, but you can do it. Us women have strength we didn’t know we had until a baby comes along!
Anyway if you want to please send me a msg and I’m happy to talk to you about my experiences, both past and present. I’m struggling at the moment myself, but I know I’ll be ok in the end, and so will you xx18 November 2019 at 2:08 pm #33004
Hi. I am facing similar situation. I am a divorced, single mum of two. 14 years old girl and 9years old boy. My daughter is suffering from an anxiety and depression. Recently started again with the meetings at Camhs. At the moment my son is ok, but he did suffer a lot because of my daughters anxiety. I have anxiety all my life and been on medication for around 9years now. I am 8 weeks pregnant and my partner/ dad to be is not very happy about pregnancy( he wants me to terminate it) The whole situation is so hard. I have my parents and sister close by but they don’t know about anything same with my kids. This is one of the reasons I feel so down. I know I am a grown woman but I am very worried and I don’t need my mums tears and all the drama when she will find out. I hate asking for help as I often feel useless and not fit for purpose. I can’t trust them as they gossip a lot. There is plenty more to say but I don’t want to brag any more.21 November 2019 at 7:34 pm #33160
Thank you both for replying. @Emmaj84 it’s good to hear that I’m not alone. I met with the potential father that I’m in love with. He said some awful awful things. He said it’s going to ruin his life. The long and short is he already has a girlfriend but he’s not happy with her. He’s just too much of a coward to do anything about it because it means he will lose his nice big house with her. He’s made me feel awful and kept trying to get me to get rid of baby.
im not going to do that. On the upside, I’ve seen a counsellor but privately. The mental health midwives have gone quiet. Not heard from anyone in a week. I know they are under staffed but I was ready to kill myself this time last week. It’s worrying. Main thing is I’m getting help and thank god my mum is helping me pay for it.
i had a low day today though. I’m back at work but I felt numb all day. I hate having to pretend I’m happy when I’m crumbling inside.21 November 2019 at 9:01 pm #33165
It is hard, but you have to keep battling on. That’s really good you’re getting some counselling, it’ll help you to process everything.
A bit of advice I once had and has really helped me is this: in life we only really have control over 2 things. What we think and what we do. Other people will say and do awful things, but it’s up to us what we do with it, and if we let it effect us. My husband has treated me terribly, but you know what? I’m not going to let his behaviour destroy me, or turn me into some bitter angry mad woman! I will get through this, one day at a time, as will you. A few weeks down the line and I’m feeling a lot stronger and I know I can handle whatever comes my way. You will get there, and become a better stronger person xx23 November 2019 at 8:59 am #33214