any one from liverpool?

[Doc4443]

hi all,

what do we all do on an evening when the kids are in bed asleep. my kids tend to be asleep by 8pm and i hate the last 3 hrs of the day.

[SCS]

I’ll let you know what I come up with if it ever happens – my back up alarm to get up for work is set for 4am for the very rare occasion I’ve not already been got up by the cat, the child or both (though to be honest I don’t even know what it sounds like or if it actually works) so by the time the night rolls around at the other end of the day and I finally win the several hours of arguments about it being time for bed I invariably drift off before my son does.  He is almost 9 years old now and has only slept through the night twice so I dream (or at least I would if I ever got long enough asleep to do so) of having a few hours to myself.

My wife used to use her free time to watch Netflix or catch up on programs she liked so that could be an option, maybe try reading, listening to podcasts or learning a language/skill. Find something you enjoy that brings you satisfaction, exercise is supposed to be helpful but it may feel strange to work out just before going to bed so maybe at the start of those difficult 3 hours.

[Doc4443]

I can’t over workout I’m already doing, 2.5hrs a day in the gym Mon to Friday once I’ve dropped my kids off at school. I’m not into reading much. I have been flicking through Netflix but films aren’t the same if ur nit watching it with anyone.

 

[Gingey28]

From the Wirral. Well yes the evenings are the worst in terms of feeling lonely. I dont mind the day. My mum had my son wed night and thurs day and night. I use my evening a to go the supermarket or for a drive as I can just do what I want really and breaks it up. I’ve cleaned the flat today and decided at 6.30pm yeah I’ll go to few shops haha mad but just fancied it. I’m in asda as I type this haha

[Doc4443]

Nice I used to work in birkenhead. But since I gave up work and she has left I’m now a full time dad and spend about 12hrs a week in the gym so I’ve lost a lot of weight. Lost about 2stone in 6weeks. And dropped from a 42incb waiste to a 36inch waiste lol. It’s crazy how much u let urself go.

 

[Gingey28]

Worked in the birko hey

[Doc4443]

Yeah last year but I’ve lost loads of weight since then lol

[Gingey28]

Have u r u happy with that?

I lost weight since had my son, I put it down to stress, being on go non stop and eating rubbish and not eating at regular times every day

[Doc4443]

i feel much better from loosing weight. its given me to concentrate on for myself. i do as much as i can with the kids to keep them as happy as i can.

[Gingey28]

Thats fab

[Doc4443]

Only way to grt through shit is finding something u enjoy

[Doc4443]

Gingy28 I will pm u

 

[Gingey28]

I dont get them

[Mitch]

I’m in Liverpool.  Feeling rather lonely.

I have 2 kids who are with me 5 nights a week, I work full time and am fortunate to have the kind of job which allows me to work from home.  This means I don’t have to factor in commuting time too, but it is nice to go into the office just to be around people.  I don’t have any close family and it is difficult engaging with his family just because it seems awkward,

I am still going through the grieving stage as the breakup was only April this year, and have been looking for ways to engage with others.  Liverpool used to be such a happy place with a great community, but it has all gone.  Everyone in the office finish their day job and rush off to be with their close family and engage with their children and their out-of-school activities.  Don’t get me wrong, I used to do the very same thing, but I now realise that I don’t have a life outside of that, and THAT has gone.

To engage with others I am developing a pattern of going for a power walk 1 night, yoga on another night, and another night I have started the Action for Happiness course locally.  That leaves me with 2 nights quality time with the kids and means I am not at home alone on the 2 nights the kids are with their dad.

It is not easy, but I don’t know any other way.  I’ve always worked.

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