Hi!
sorry you are having to deal with this. I think it is normal. Was he having an affair? Sorry to ask that question but I think this is when they seem to be like this. They are angry at themselves snd can’t accept it, so they deflect it onto you.
I had the same. Hate to tell you this, but 3 years hasn’t stopped him being angry. I get messages sent through our child and he seems to want to ensure I know how well life is going for him. He seems happier looking for my reaction to any news he has then he is for the actual positives in his life, if you understand me.He is not interested in co parenting and makes out he is a victim.
I hope it gets better fir you as it’s really tiring dealing with someone like this.