Angry ex even thu he left me

[TaniaL]

My ex is so angry with me even thu he left me? I can’t understand it. We didn’t have any contact for nearly 3 months he didn’t even see our children in that time. I contacted him asking him to see them and he did 3-4 times a week still very little contact he would just txt to ask if it was still OK the see them that nite, not that he needed my permission. Just before Christmas he got his own house & I sent a message to say he could collect some of his stuff. On the dy of collection I left the house and he wanted to remove his toolbox but they are glued and bolted to the wall and floor I said no and since then he won’t have any communication with me at all. I’m not expecting friendly how are you txt but even with the kids he won’t let me know if he’s coming to get them he has just said it’ll be the same time as usual if it doesn’t suit don’t send them out the door. Is this normal? or am I expecting too much from him? I know he is hurting but he left us and I’ve gave him every opportunity to see our kids. Just wondering if anyone else has been through this and can give me some insight?

[Sunflowerpup]

Hi!

sorry you are having to deal with this. I think it is normal. Was he having an affair? Sorry to ask that question but I think this is when they seem to be like this. They are angry at themselves snd can’t accept it, so they deflect it onto you.
I had the same. Hate to tell you this, but 3 years hasn’t stopped him being angry. I get messages sent through our child and he seems to want to ensure I know how well life is going for him. He seems happier looking for my reaction to any news he has then he is for the actual positives in his life, if you understand me.He is not interested in co parenting and makes out he is a victim.

I hope it gets better fir you as it’s really tiring dealing with someone like this.

[TaniaL]

Oh no this sounds so much like how it’s going for me, my gut feeling is there is someone else but it’s never been confirmed, all his family say there isn’t but how much can I believe of that?. I did txt him & asked him to stop sending messages through our 7 Yr old she doesn’t need the stress of having to do the adults role but was met with negativy. I know it only 5 months but I really thought he would be more interested in co-parenting – well this is the story he’s telling me and others but his actions are completely different. This is a total change in character for him and he’s painting me as being a total ***** to everyone. You must be completely drained I’ve only been faced with this for 2wks now and it’s adding an extra layer to the heartbreak.

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