No I know exactly how you feel my ex was with her when he left me and my 2 boys and last week sent me a picture of them with the boys saying yeah it looks like there unhappy you f**king physco she’s more of a woman than u ever were. They don’t have a choice she’s always there too and he now takes her up the school to meet my youngest from school with him.
You can make a separate appointment to see the teacher/s for parents evening I haven’t been with my ex since we split it’s too verbally/emotionally abusive on his behalf that i dont feel comfortable to do it with him.