Am I being paranoid? Or letting myself be controlled??

[G.S.7145.P]

Hi peeps,

Ok I really want to post on here for different bits of advice etc – and yes I realise this is a post 🙈

But I’m worried my ex will either see or someone he knows and then cause huge amounts of drama over it.

It doesn’t help he says to me “it’s better to tell me things cause I always find everything out”.

My mum has even said to me I need to stop telling him things, but I worry he might find out.

What would you do in my situation?

[Ramblinjon]

Hiya,

I think it’s a real shame that the forum are no longer closed as they used to be, unfortunately the reality is now that what’s been said here can be picked up by Google.

Saying that, use an alias and don’t give out to many details that can identify you or anyone that your talking about and I’m sure it will be fine. It must be remembered that it’s highly unlikely that no one has gone through whatever situation you in so your posts could be written by anyone.

If your that concerned then read through the different threads, you’ll soon see people who give great advice and are not judgemental such as Kathymumofone(? I think that’s her username) and then message them privately.

Hope this helps

Mark

[G.S.7145.P]

Thanks Mark that’s great advice. I’m not too good with I.T stuff and didn’t know it could show up on a Google search. I will look at changing my details on here as well.

[Ramblinjon]

Your welcome. Just click the little person at the top of the page and it will take you to your profile, then click edit. 🙂

[G.S.7145.P]

All done thank you 👍

[Sherinam]

I think you need to remove your photo too !

[G.S.7145.P]

Seriously!?! 🙈 I’ve just got it all set up. It’s making me think he really is controlling every part of my life. This is why it’s taken me months to even come on something like this site, but instead of making me feel better it’s set my insecurities sky rocketing. It’s ridiculous and so upsetting

[Ramblinjon]

You’ve done everything right in keeping yourself anonymous so don’t worry, there are thousands of forum users so he isn’t going to find you here.

Gingerbread is a really fantastic place for support and finding other people with similar experiences so it would be a real shame if you let paranoia from getting the help you need.

 

[G.S.7145.P]

Thanks Mark I know you are right. I’ve just got to get over the paranoia and concentrate on the benefits of being on here

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