Alone, 2 children and caesarean in May with twins…
7 April 2020 at 9:14 pm #38762
<span style=”-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: #ffffff; color: #ffffff; font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody; font-size: 19px; background-color: #1c1c1e;”>My daughter is alone, due to have twin girls on in May by Caesarean section…. she also has 2 other children under 7 …. the vague advice do far is that we cannot go and help her . they intend to discharge them all after 24 hours if they are well. How on earth can I sit back and not help?…. I am the birthing partner!! Leave after 2 hours and can’t return to the hospital.. I completely accept that… in the next few weeks she has many appointments and the children cannot attend and are therefore looked after by us ( maternal grandparents… so we have to mix anyway, and both households see only the other household (stricktly) … it’s too much for 1 mum, and I fear if I did leave her to cope, she would be back in hospital with exhaustion at the very least…. please advise! … CMoran</span>10 April 2020 at 2:51 pm #38821
Wow that is such an intense situation for you all. Have you spoken to a health visitor or midwife for advice? Technically she’s a vulnerable person that’ll need your care x14 April 2020 at 12:57 am #38942
You could choose to leave your household and remain in your daughters household for the remainder of this lock down situation. It is the interaction with other households and between households that is the problem. If you move in with your daughter for this period you are sticking to the one household if your circumstances allow you to do that. You can then isolate with your daughter. Wish you all the best and congratulations xx15 April 2020 at 6:20 am #39002
Omg! This is exactly the situation I am in been awake all night searching for answers or help so scared, financially absolutely meas no money on benefits due to employer finishing me when my daughter was born, and then my horrendous ex Ieft eventually disnt even take a spoon, started from.scratch not knowing benefits etc, finely started to make.house a home for us searching free sites etc but no were near complete, after a on off relationship for a year or so (split with ex was Jan 2017) relationship was finished by both of us, but after the passing of his mam about 10 months later, recieved upset phone call from him I forming me about his mum, and he ended up spending night fast forward to March 13th, after being so I’ll, blood clots on both lungs hospital.addmissikn 2 weeks Oct 19, pneumonia hospital admission 2 weeks from boxing day into new year, 2 ct scans and negative pregnancy tests when my bloating stomach not going down, given weight loss tablets from my drs lol and told ibs etc, anyway March 13th this year absolutely exhausted sick constantly since last year, unable to lift dark cloud, crying, body aching, legs and feet ballooned and horrendous back pain, another pregnancy test done after bloods taken and just to rule it out again, was told I was.peegnant, and about 17 weeks and needed urgent scan and antenatal appointment, 2 days later, in the chair having scan, baby actually 28 weeks…..then midwife very very quiet for a while…… and then she says “I dont know how to tell you this…there is 2 babys, you are having twins!
How.will I manage, my elderly mamand dad Are the only people I talk to after losing all friends etc after split with ex, and we have been all social distancing together at therw house, I live 4 doors away with.daughter, but I will be ho neexactlythe same the next day probably, csection booked 8thmay and my head is just going to burst, house is not ready, i have nothing at l.for them.nor no money, I cannot have my mamand dad helping they are I’ll health themselves, how will I survive coming.home me my 6 year old daughter and.teins after a.csection unable to walk or climb.the stairs even for the toilet, I litreally am a rabbit in the headlights.overwhelmed and clueless and with this all going on I dont have a midwife as was too late my drs.said and I cam never get through to hospital not there fault whatsoever they are saving lives and heroes, and dont want tonother them, but am just depressed and searching for anything I ca,came across your site and here I am15 April 2020 at 5:09 pm #39033
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