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    Hi All,

    I’ve just stumbled across this website, not sure if anyone has been in a similar situation or is able to offer any advice as to where I stand with work. It’ll be quite a long and rambly post so I apologise in advance.

    I’ve worked in my current job for just over 2 years. When I started working there my daughter went to school approx 12 miles from home, and I worked about half way between home and school. The school bus dropped her at a childminder round the corner from work.

    Last year, out of the blue the school bus was cancelled. My mother retired around the same time, so although awkward (she lives about 10 miles in the opposite direction) she took over the school runs on my working days. A few months ago my Grandmother’s health declined, to the point where she is living with my mother and requires almost constant care, meaning my mother is no longer able to consistently help with schoolruns/childcare.

    I managed to move my daughter to a school in my local town at the start of the school year. For the past couple of months I have managed to split childcare between friends, neighbours and my mother whenever possible, but I made my employers aware from the beginning that it was not a long term solution. The new school offers an after school/tea time club which runs until 17.30. I currently work 9am – 6pm for a business that operates 24 hours a day. At the beginning of September I requested to change my hours to 9am – 5pm, to enable me to get back in time to collect my daughter when club closes. I have today been told they’re not able/not willing to agree to the change in hours.

    I’m now at a complete loss as to what to do. I have no other option but to leave work at 5 on the days I have no one to collect my daughter, but am essentially in a position where I will lose my job if I continue to do so. There are no childminders local to me and my daughter has had no contact with her father for nearly 5 years, so I’ve sort of run out of options.

    I dread the idea of being unemployed and am completely terrified that if I am either sacked, or leave my job voluntarily I’ll be in a position where I won’t be able to survive financially. I’m really hoping there’s some sort of miracle solution I’ve missed.

    #16928 Report


    Don’t worry just go on website to see if someone is willing to travel to pick your child up. I have the same problem as you &  have got a child minder who has pleased herself & already   booked 3 holidays one of the holidays is for 7 weeks duration.

    You are not going to lose your job just keep looking chat to your neighbours etc.. I have already contacted agency so have started looking for someone . Last week I got home from work and found a much older child in my living  room that she picked up from  secondary school as  her daughter who was supposed to pick the child was admitted to hospital.  The random child mother came to my home at 7pm to pick child up and I was very very cross.   My autistic  4 year daughter was dropped off by school bus  would not settle as I fed her dinner late and bathed her late because I had all this going on. No one asked my permission so now she going on holiday I will have enough time to get someone else.

    Also I gave her extra day salary last week because I told her to sort her personal problems and not come one day.  This week my daughter was off sick so I was at home I paid nanny for today and yesterday and she told me  tonight I hadn’t paid her enough even thou she didn’t work Monday.  So you can’t win!


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    The school she goes to near home is about a 15/20 minute drive from work.

    I have made it very clear that I’ve done everything possible but that my choices are I try to amend my hours or I will have to find alternative work. I had said that I would happily still work until 6 on the days I have got friends etc. who can collect her for me, but there will likely be 2/3 days a week that I can’t, so I would rather put an official arrangement in place then help when needed/when I can, but that wasn’t even considered.

    It hadn’t occurred to me to ask if any of the school staff would be willing to come to a private arrangement. With my daughter having only been there since September I don’t really know any of the staff in the same way I’d known the staff at her previous school (she’d been there 4 years) but I’ll ask about and see if that may be an option.

    I only have a 20 minute lunch break, plus 2 x 5 minute breaks so can’t do a lot with that. Starting earlier would have potentially been an option for me if I also put my daughter into breakfast club but they’ve said that the hour I’m asking for each evening is the time they cannot afford to lose me. The only offer they’ve made is that they could amend my hours so I work evenings instead of days, which doesn’t help me in the slightest as would still have no one to look after my daughter. They’ve refused on the grounds that it doesn’t suit the needs of the business. I am frantically trying to find other work, but I have no option but to leave at 5 on the days I have no alternative and I’m completely terrified they’re going to sack me for it. Not only am I going to be in real trouble financially, having sacked as the reason for leaving my previous job isn’t going to do me any favours trying to find a new one.

    #16931 Report


    Has your daughter made friends?  Every month we have a coffee morning at school where we network with other parents . We have a meeting tomorrow!  Some of us are on WhatsApp group. Don’t stress just keep asking but also your daughter needs to be safe. Don’t give up your job as I work too and have no one but the paid nanny .

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