Apologies if this is the wrong place or is insensitive in any way. My husband and I have decided to separate but things are reasonably friendly at the moment. He says he can’t afford to move out and rent until we sell our house as he would use any profit from the sale of our house to payoff debts. He doesn’t want to sell until next year when our current rate on mortgage will end thereby avoiding large fees. So far I think I can live with this.
I’m looking for any advice on when to tell kids?? He thinks soon so that they can see we are still being nice to each other and that we still love them etc. My daughter at 7 does seem to be picking up on things a little. But they are 7 and 5 and I am worried that if the time between telling them and him actually moving out is very long (6 months plus) that they will be likely to think it’s never going to happen and get a bigger shock later. Or that school friends may accuse them of fabricating. I know I can’t prevent all the hurt but young children have a poor grasp of time and I feel maybe a month beforehand would be easier for them to understand…. Advice from anyone with experience of this would be much appreciated