I’m at my wits end and hoping for some support/suggestions.
We have a ‘shared care’ order. Basically my ex took me to court every couple of years with the intent of gaining 50/50 so he doesn’t have to pay maintenance. I’m not bitter, I have the messages saved! I haven’t had maintenance for a long time.
Anyway I’m fine with that overnight arrangement as long as my son is happy.
But…… I’m getting to the point where as son gets older it’s just so expensive! I ask his dad to pay for half of essentials – school uniform, trips, passport. But he ignores me. The only thing he has ever paid for is half of his leavers prom…. I didn’t ask him to as it’s hardly an essential.
Although he has half of the nights, I do everything else. During school holidays he will have him overnight – pick up at 5:45 and drop off at 8:15 the following morning. I take him to doctor, dentist, he has never even been to a parents evening.
How do CMS view day to day care? It’s easy and cheap caring for a child overnight – they’re asleep!