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    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>A little bit of advice please! I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with the baby’s dad, very controlling and wore me down massively. I had been in contact with charities to help me get through it as I felt extremely vulnerable and never had the courage or confidence to leave. It all got worse when I was pregnant. He told me that he would sort out moving in somewhere, and he would support me so I stayed because I obviously felt like I had no other option. He put so much stress and upset on me while pregnant. </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>He has a lot of debt and said that he wouldn’t be able to provide somewhere to live for us when I was around 6 months, so I started looking on my own but still with the intention of us being a family as I was still with him. </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>But now I’m 8 months pregnant and he’s left me, started to get to know other women, and then gone on holiday after deleting all pictures of the baby scans on social media. </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>I really don’t trust this man to be the dad he says he will be as his word means nothing to me anymore and it’s all false promises. </span>

    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>What would you do in my situation in terms of birth certificate and giving the baby the same surname? As I’m genuinely concerned that he may take the baby from me and not bring him back?! I don’t want to do things out of spite, but he’s been unpredictable and I can’t trust him to not bring the baby back to me.</span>


    <span style=”font-size: 12pt;”>I have given him every opportunity to be a dad so far and his actions just don’t add up with the things he says</span>

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    You can’t register your ex as the father unless he is there, so that’s simple. If he doesn’t show up, he doesn’t go on the birth certificate.

    As for surname, I’d give the baby yours for now, and see how things pan out. It can be changed later.

    why do you think he would take your child? He doesn’t seem very interested so far.

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