I have been separated from my kids father for over two years. We have had a few ups & downs during this time.
He has a new partner & in the beginning my children didn’t want to meet her. I sat them down & told them that I didn’t want them not meeting her because they thought it would hurt me etc. Eventually my daughter decided to meet her & my son still didn’t want to. I told my ex to stop pressuring our son & give him time.
My ex continued to bring this up with our son & eventually he came round. I was angry because I felt he pressured him into something he wasn’t ready for. I stayed quiet & let it go though. I told my ex that they were both scared that his new girlfriend was going to be there all the time & they didn’t want this. He only sees them twice per week, this is his choice as I’d like them to see him more. It seems recently that she is there more & more when he has them. I just found out yesterday from the kids that he has booked a holiday in the summer & the new girlfriend is going with them! Should he not have discussed this with me? Should I not be made aware of what is going on? I just feel that as he spends so little time with them that when he’s got them they should be getting his full attention. He has five nights of the week to spend with his new girlfriend. I know its out with my control but I just want my kids to have a good relationship with their Dad & I want us to be able to communicate about what is going on in their lives. I would never not tell him if I was introducing my kids to my new partner or going on holiday with them etc. Oh & I haven’t met his new partner either. Sorry for the rant I needed to get that out!