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    Seacraft77N.Ireland
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    <b>Hi, new to this. Not sure how to say but I’ll try. My son is 13 and my wife left me 10 years ago and had an affair.  He died on the street six months later. I’m a professional man and I still cannot comprehend this is how it ended for us. I had my son full time after until she got her head straight really and I trusted her with him. Since i have dated others, always wanting to be in a relationship like a family. 10 years later i fall in love, lasted three years until she met another man. My son has been through a lot of different partners with me, assuming his Mum perhaps but I don’t know. I’m in my early 50’s now and struggling a lot with all I’ve been through and with my marriage, son. My parents have been together nearly 70 years and I’m jealous of that, couples don’t seem to want to work at relationships now? </b>

    #62018 Report

    Mumoffive
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    I’m really sorry to hear about your situ.
    my husband and I have been on and off for 2.5 years, currently off. He was chatting online to women behind my back.
    I know what you’re saying about wanting the family life. I too will never understand why my husband did what he did and I long for that husband/wife/kids family unit. When I’m out and I see couples with their children (or even couples with no children) I feel quite envious. I hate the fact this is my life now because I did not chose it to be this way. It was and is out of my control.
    I’m sorry I have no advice but here if you’d like to chat, you’re not alone

    #62020 Report

    Seacraft77N.Ireland
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    Hello… And thanks for your thoughts Moumoffive and reading my post. I was brought up old school thinking it was always males who were players, cheating but i think differently now. Both sides are to blame for infidelity. Yes I would like to chat and hear about other’s experiences, perhaps it will help

     

    #62022 Report

    L
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    Hi

    It’s very brave to talk about your experiences. I too have v similar views on wanting a traditional family life until my husband cheated on me😪

    Here to chat if you need to.

    #62035 Report

    Seacraft77N.Ireland
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    I for one don’t understand how people fall in love then later think the grass would be greener with someone else and cheat on their partner. That never brings anyone happiness.

    #62037 Report

    L
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    I totally agree with you👍 I ask myself the question did they ever love you or was the whole thing one big lie????? I’m left feeling very upset by the whole thing because I loved my husband so much . Why would he treat me the way he did?

    Keep believing there are good people in this world and you will def find one of them. And they will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

    Keep on being strong and believing 👍

    #62039 Report

    Seacraft77N.Ireland
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    We both have the same questions and sometimes never get answers. My ex wife has apologised since and that’s good but it never takes away all that hurt. There are good people of course, unfortunately for you and I and many others we have learned that people can be very cruel, even those we loved. Trust gets more difficult because of our experiences. I hope all works out for you xo

    #62052 Report

    AnotherStatistic
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    Hi. I was brought up by a traditional mom and dad – very committed and dedicated to their children. There was no question that they would always keep our family unit together  through good and bad. I really wanted the same for my children, and their mom pretended to think the same way, but she has transpired to be something else entirely, and is tearing us apart (remorselessly).

    I think you’re right – not many people are prepared to work at a relationship now – I do think their own upbringing has an influence. My wife never knew who her dad was and her mom was not very stable, whereas I was very lucky with my parents.

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    Michael UK
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    Hi seacraft

    Your right, it’s not just men, both sides do it, just one side seems to gets more public attention.

    my ex wife cheated and left when my daughter was 8 weeks old for another married man, meaning giving up work to care for my daughter.

    several months later the other man came out as gay.

    I waited to have kids until I was married and had a decent wage, but you can never predict all possible outcomes, just deal with them as they occur.

    #62066 Report

    Seacraft77N.Ireland
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    You’ve been through a lot Michael, very sad that others don’t have a filter for causing hurt to others. I hope you are doing well today and moving forward with your life. Hard to forget and move on I have found. Scars do heal but it takes time, a lot of time.

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