Advice please!

[Rachael82]

Hi Everyone,

First post here so bear with me!

My daughter is 13, almost 14. Her Dad, by his own choices, lives in a caravan. I respect his choices but am a bit concerned that it doesn’t have bedrooms. I’m not saying she’s at risk at all, just she doesn’t have her own space or privacy if she wants it. It doesn’t seem to bother her, just me.

To add to this, during lockdown his friend moved in to shield his parents. My daughter doesn’t really like this friend and feels her Dad always takes his side. So its her Dad, her Dad’s male friend, and her all in the one open plan area. This makes me even more uncomfortable!

Again it’s her choice, she wants to go and I don’t feel I’m in a position to stop her at her age, but I’m not comfortable with it.

Am I just being overly cautious and anxious?

Rachael

[Mum2aTeen]

In respect of the friend, I too would feel rather uncomfortable at this other friend and my teenage daughter if I am honest.

Its not to say that anything untoward will happen, but I’m just putting myself in your shoes with my daughter who is of a similar age and I genuinely know I would feel uncomfortable with this.

do you know the friend?

[Rachael82]

I do know the friend but not well enough, he barely sees his own kids.

I’m just not comfortable and I know she doesn’t like him. To me that’s reason enough.

[Mum2aTeen]

Yes I agree.

I think with her dad it’s probably different (although i might not be best placed to comment on this as my ex isn’t in my life) but I think the friend thing is a good enough reason, especially if she doesn’t like him.

Perhaps you need to set boundaries with her dad and explain that whilst he has a friend staying, it is not possible for her to stay

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